Hi There
I need to know if I'm being unreasonable or right to feel hurt! I'm already suffering with anxiety and had post natal depression after my last baby. So please be kind ❤️
I met my best friend when our girls (mine E and hers P) became friends in primary school, back in 2016. I knew nobody at the school so this Mum took me under her wing.
The girls became best friends. So we ended up at each others houses a lot, bbqs as families together. Days out in the kids holidays. Shopping without the children concerts etc.
She suffers with mental health like I do. We both helped each other, through lots. I suffered 3 miscarriages in 2017 which she was very supportive with. She helped collect the children from school if I was at hospital/midwife.
I fell pregnant with my youngest in December 2017 and had lots of bleeds and scares. Plus had awful morning sickness.
She again helped a lot and I was so greatful. I was her maid of honour and sang at her wedding in 2018
She through me a baby shower, we were very close.
It started to go wrong when she called to to tell me. She'd bumped into a ex school Mum (who I didn't know) who stood and slagged me off for 10 minutes outside a supermarket. I must say I was in hospital on a drip trying to stop pre term labour at the time. When asked if she'd said anything in return to this ex school Mum she said no she froze!
After youngest was born. We went out for the day to see her daughter who'd just had a baby. On the way home, she sat slaghing off a new Mum at school. My baby was screaming and I asked her to stop it, I didn't want to hear it. I think she thought it was out of jealousy as this Mum was trying to befriend her. But I'd actually said to stop, as I hate hearing anybody talking nastily about someone else. I think if their talking like that to me about someone else, what are they saying about me.
She's let me down over and over again. Promised I'll come over after lunch, I'd spend ages cleaning and buy cakes. She never came. I can't tell you how many times she's done that. I didn't know what had gone wrong, what I'd done and just wanted someone to have a cup of tea with.
She's now stopping our daughters E&P meeting up outside of school. Saying it's because of covid, but allowing her to go to other friends houses for playdates. My daughter E knows this and is getting very upset.
I did message to ask if her daughter P was OK as she'd not wanted to play with my E all week and had been playing alone at breaktime. I'm her god mother and genuinely care about her. I was told she was fine.
I tried to organise a meet up last week for lunch. To try chat about what's going on. Which she agreed to then, messaged the evening before say something came up.
Unfortunately I've had enough! I no longer want to speak to her and have been avoiding her.
Am I being unreasonable?
I must say I have other friends I've made that do seem to be there. So I'm not totally alone ❤️
Mummy of 3 🌈 🌈🌈