AIBU

[confusedmum94]

My partners sister is getting married in a couple of months, I am her Maid of honor. I had a very tough timein November when my grandfather passed away I had been caring for him for 10 months from my son was 6 weeks old, at this time I was also suffering with ppd.

Anyway the bride to be live over seas and was home at the time when my grandfather was passing, she was amazing looking after my 10 month old.

She had to cancle plans to meet a friend who was not happy and completely put me down for not giving them notice my grandfather was going to die. They fell out and only over the past few days have reconnected. Now that friend is invited to the wedding and im dreading seeing her. I feel hurt by the bride to be. Im also 5 months pregnant and dont know if its hormones making me feel like she should have spoke to me before inviting her of if my feelings are just.

AIBU

Your partner's sister was there for you when you needed her, even though it meant she fell out with her friend.

They've made up. Completely understand why you wouldn't want to have much to do with the friend at the wedding, but I think you'd be very unfair to say anything to your SIL about it imo

@Glay

Your partner's sister was there for you when you needed her, even though it meant she fell out with her friend.

They've made up. Completely understand why you wouldn't want to have much to do with the friend at the wedding, but I think you'd be very unfair to say anything to your SIL about it imo

100% agreed

@Glay

Your partner's sister was there for you when you needed her, even though it meant she fell out with her friend.

They've made up. Completely understand why you wouldn't want to have much to do with the friend at the wedding, but I think you'd be very unfair to say anything to your SIL about it imo

What she said.

@Glay

Your partner's sister was there for you when you needed her, even though it meant she fell out with her friend.

They've made up. Completely understand why you wouldn't want to have much to do with the friend at the wedding, but I think you'd be very unfair to say anything to your SIL about it imo

What she said!!! 100%

@Glay

Your partner's sister was there for you when you needed her, even though it meant she fell out with her friend.

They've made up. Completely understand why you wouldn't want to have much to do with the friend at the wedding, but I think you'd be very unfair to say anything to your SIL about it imo

I also agree with this.

Book a different flight.
You'll be seated at top table so no need to have much to do with the other person

@Glay has it spot on!

It sounds like the friend was a cow, but you have no right to dictate who gets to go to the wedding. Your partner’s sister clearly stuck up for you or there wouldn’t have been a fall-out to make up.

What a lovely SIL and @Glay is spot on.

The friend doesn't sound very nice but I wouldn't call out with your partner's sister over this. It sounds like she's been good to you and friendships can be very complex. Sometimes we have to accept that we don't like people even though others we respect/love do. If you fall out with her I we this you lose a valuable relationship and what actually would you gain? If she realises one day her friend isn't a great person then that's a bonus.

That said I'd avoid the friend at the wedding