What fibs have you told to get out of plans?

[Patientzer0]

Currently unwell with some god awful virus which isn't covid but I'm relapsing 10 days later after I thought I was getting better. I'm sure it's flu or viral pneumonia at this stage. Fecking horrid whatever it is.

I've had plans arranged for this Friday for months, they involve a friend travelling down to my city for the weekend. Lots of activities.

She checked in with me a couple of days ago and I thought I was recovering at the time so I said as much. Confirmed plans. She's v excited.

Now I've gone downhill again and feel as bad as I did on day 1 and 2. There's no way I could manage it in this state and I don't like the idea of letting her come on the off chance I'm any better by Friday.

If she comes (staying at a hotel) I'll feel obliged to go out regardless of whether or not I'm up to it as she's coming a considerable distance.

She's one of those who think anything less than deaths door is "just a cold" and I just know if I tell her that I feel so rough after saying I'm much better, she's going to either 1) think I'm exaggerating or 2) insist we go ahead and I soldier on anyway because it's not covid.

I'm contemplating telling her the doctor has diagnosed confirmed viral pneumonia and insisted on bed rest

What fibs have you told to get out of plans?

Why not just say that unfortunately it has taken a turn for the worse again and you aren't going to be able to go out anywhere, and, to be on the safe side you aren't mixing with anyone ?

Not sure why you feel the need to make things up. If you aren't well, then you aren't well.

You are clearly unwell, so just tell her. Sure, she will be disappointed but it is what it is.

No, I don't tell fibs to get out of stuff.

Other way round, I told a lie to work (relative died) to go to friend's hen night many miles away.

I swear DH thought said relative would drop dead soon after and I'd feel really guilty.. but neither happened

I don't, I just tell the truth.

Fake your own death. If you should happen to run into her, simply pretend you’re your own long-lost twin who’s flown in for the funeral.

My childcare lets me down last a couple of times 😜

I think in this case your totally in your rights to say you're not very well, but I also get that a little fib gets you out of all the hassle of having to convince someone you can't go.

Not exactly the same but my elderly aunt was hounding me to watch an online mass that meant a lot to her. I really couldn't be bothered but logged on quickly to check what priest it was and then drafted a message to her send later saying "Such a lovely service by Fr Jones. Hope you enjoyed it too". But I accidentally hit send 2 secs after the blooming thing had started. She never said anything but I've been mortified every time I've thought about it since

Tell her it might be covid. After all, it might be. PCRs can be wrong.

I usually just blame work (used to work shifts). Got me out of so much IL stuff.

One of few perks of being chronically ill os being able to say you've had a flare up at the drop of a hat. I dont do it regularly but i have regular flares that sometimes have started while out so every knows once ones starts in stuck at home till it lets up.

Say you have covid? Easy

Why not see the dr tom? Viral pneoumonia is not good.

Just tell the truth as you have told it on here. Say that if she comes, she runs the risk of spending the weekend alone as you feel so bad. Probably best to rearrange. Get well soon

I've been trying to get an OOH doctor's appointment but no joy, I can't get past the receptionist at my own surgery either who keeps telling me there are no appointments available. It's crap.

The problem is she's such a 'get up and go' person she just wouldn't be able to relate and/or sympathise with anything deemed mild, as if it was her she'd push ahead. We used to work together moons ago and she'd come in to the office with all sorts because she didn't like letting work down.

@GrettaGreen

Not exactly the same but my elderly aunt was hounding me to watch an online mass that meant a lot to her. I really couldn't be bothered but logged on quickly to check what priest it was and then drafted a message to her send later saying "Such a lovely service by Fr Jones. Hope you enjoyed it too". But I accidentally hit send 2 secs after the blooming thing had started. She never said anything but I've been mortified every time I've thought about it since

Oh this has really tickled me, just brilliant

I just tell the truth. I can't stand friends who fib, it's always so obvious over time and makes me not trust them about anything.
I always knew which friends would make up some last minute weird excuse. It's obvious because those weird last minute issues rarely arise in the genuine honest friends!
If you're I'll just say you're ill.

@Drunkenmonkey

I just tell the truth. I can't stand friends who fib, it's always so obvious over time and makes me not trust them about anything. I always knew which friends would make up some last minute weird excuse. It's obvious because those weird last minute issues rarely arise in the genuine honest friends! If you're I'll just say you're ill.

I don't make a habit of it, infact it's the only time I've ever cancelled or rearranged that I can remember.

I understand what you're saying, especially if it's a theme with some friends, but when you know you're going to be put under pressure to go regardless of how you actually are, it's easier to embellish slightly.

I'm pretty sure it is viral pneumonia anyway so the only fib is the bed rest.

@Patientzer0 if it's the only time you have rearranged she should totally understand if you say you are ill. Hope you feel better soon.

Tell her ASAP so she can get her hotel cancelled and sort out what she's doing.

We're in the middle of a pandemic and you've got symptoms so definitely best to avoid mixing. And to stay home and recover.

She might be a little annoyed but far less so than if you leave it till the last second or make up some obscure thing.