How do I try and improve things with my mum?

[LondonMiss]

I feel like all my mother does is have a go at me, she’s never really worked so has no concept of how insane running my company actually is, I have tried to tell her it’s so busy I could cry some days but it falls on deaf ears.. my dad gets it he’s always had really senior jobs.
My mum will message on Facebook to say morning ect I always respond but then she’s sending links and trying to chat ect I have to say sorry I have meetings now and I use my phone for teams, she usual responses with “don’t speak to me then” or some other form of trying to start a row. Its not that I don’t want to speak I just have meetings to run and issues to sort out even more so with a lot of the Indian team off sick.
It’s getting so common now I try to avoid even speaking to her because all she ever does is try to start a row because I cant sit and chat as I’m working.. by the time I actually log off the last thing I need is to have to speak to someone that’s kick up a fuss as I have been “Mute” all day when I’m actually working. My partner has even said in her company, he barely sees me though the day as I’m back 2 back.

I’m happy to chat to her on a weekend but they are usually out and about..

Could your Dad help you out here? Maybe you could respond just once in the morning with a generic, ‘morning Mum, I’ve got another mad day so won’t be able to check messages, let’s talk at 7pm on Wednesday for a proper catch up?’

Then when you do talk perhaps let her say her thing and then ask if she does want to catch up or just make you feel bad for something beyond your control. Hopefully you can train her but otherwise just continue with your boundaries.

That’s my usual morning response but she will see stuff posted on social media ect and kick off about those, they are business accounts with automatic posts

My dad locks him self in his office all day, it must be odd for her having him home but he used to leave earlier when he was office based as he had a 45min commute each way.