AIBU to have a messy house with a 2 & 4 year old

[Thenameisweasley]

I have a just turned four and just turned two year old. The four year old goes to nursery for 2 hours a day and it takes me twenty minutes to get there so I spend a fair bit of time driving her there and back. I work 30 hours a week as a nurse (two 13 hour shifts one week and three the next) and I literally cannot get on top of my house tidying. It’s never dirty, just messy all the time! Washing often spends a week folded waiting to be put away.

Recently my mother (who does no childcare) has made many comments about the mess but I genuinely spend every free minute tidying and the place is still messy. I’m never in the house without children to tidy it!

Please tell me I’m not alone?!

Your mother should be helping you tidy and clean if she has something to say on the matter. Hand her a duster and some dettol and thank her for coming, and you will be upstairs having a much needed lie down.

Cheeky!

I agree with idontlikealdi (but I do like Aldi) to tell your mum to piss off

And also all DC are different some sit still for ages others are crawling or walking around or trying to whack a younger sibling . Ones been up all night as have you so both are grizzly whilst the other has slept well and is full of energy.

Mine are 11 and 14 and my house is still a mess!
I work 30 hours a week and DH works ft. I do 99% of chores and housework and the other day was complaining about the mess that everyone else makes and DH said "well we dont do much cleaning, do we? "
He does almost no cleaning, I clean every day!! I nearly exploded!

Mine is like this! There are random stray socks everywhere and other things that shouldn't be there. It will be clean one day when the kids aren't there, and if it's not then I know I'm the problem 😂

I am trying to give my DC good habits by making him tidy his room every night before he goes to bed so there's nothing on the floor or out of place...

Meanwhile, we have to scale the laundry pile to get into his room, we're tripping over duplo and piles of books in the sitting-room and 6 months worth of post is stacked up on the kitchen surfaces . Feel such a hypocrite!

My house currently looks like a tip and my kids have all grown up, moved on leaving me with no one to blame but DH when the cleaner comes tomorrow

Give DM the keys and tell her you really appreciate her offer to come and clear up twice a week for you and if she isn't offering then she can take her advice elsewhere.

Depends what kind of mess you're talking about. Wine bottles, old food and dirty litter trays - needs cleaning. Abandoned socks on the floor, breadstick crumbs scattered around and 576 hot wheels lying around = normal child mess.