To be a bit sad about this?

[Xami]

Made a new friend recently who is in a similar life stage to me, we get on well. Friend is lovely and often confides in me etc / I do the same. Has asked me for reassurance and “soothing words” when things haven’t gone well for them. Friend has reciprocated but I had a panic about something today and they sort of fobbed me off - just said hope you’re ok and then didn’t message after. I feel a bit let down and a bit embarrassed - even hurt! Sad as I like their company and enjoy spending time together but now thinking maybe I should tune out of their dramas a bit. I’m not normally needy but was stressing and needed a hand. Live on my own etc and normally quite self sufficient, would never ask them to behave in a way that they wouldn’t expect me to behave to them if that makes sense?

Some people just aren't very good at huns and sympathy. Perhaps your friend was very busy. I'm sure it isn't a reflection on how they view the friendship but I do understand how you would feel fobbed off.

Can we help you with whatever it is?

Maybe it’s too much? If they are a recent friend then if all you both do is talk about emotional things then it can impact you both negatively as it can be draining.

This "friend" is a man isn't it?

YANBU, I suspect they want to off load on you and use you as a counsellor but not reciprocate.

Don’t invest too much time and effort into this friendship, be wary.

@denverRegina I got that inkling too.