My partner lied to me

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My partner lied to me about something that I find a major deal breaker. I won't go into it here as it is quite outing and I have family on here. He kept denying it for weeks until yesterday I finally got the proof. He told me that he didn't tell me as he knew I would react like that. He then went on to call me alot of names including a fat cunt etc in front of our child. Today I just feel done. I don't feel for him what I used to. I don't think I want to be in a relationship with someone that lies and calls me names like this. I am over weight I know that.

He lies and then calls you disgusting names in front of your child?

You deserve better op

Leave the bastard!

Not on calling you names. Hopefully you didn’t retaliate with name calling.

If his lie is more than you need/want to tolerate then your relationship will need to end. Can’t advise any further as no idea what the lie was, and what is tolerable to one person may not be to another.

Just end it. Calling you names like that on its own is unacceptable let alone the lying.

So why are you with him?

You are with this thuggish lout because...........?

If this is a deal breaker for you OP make him leave, for the abusive names alone I think you are entitled to make him leave. 🌸

This is all very raw, he’s lied to you so this has caused massive trust issues, he’s calling you names because he knows he’s in the wrong so the abuse is a defence mechanism- ur making him feel crap for lying so he’s hurting u by name calling.
If you serious want out then you need to speak to him - not scream and shout that solves nothing just speak to the bloke tell him how he makes you feel how he’s disrespectful and abusive and that nothing is forgivable that is said with your children present. Let him have his say, you may not like what he’s got to say but let him say it. You have kids so try as best you can to keep it amicable and ask him to move out of your family home - tell him you need time apart and that he can have contact with your children. You might feel that you can both get through this after time apart in that case work at it together, if not then sort finances make sure your children are ok and move on. You don’t need to be with someone that makes you feel worthless . Only you can make the decision . Good luck x

He doesn't respect you. That won't change.

He also sounds horrible. Who says that to anyone, let alone their parter or in front of a child. Is that how you want your child to speak to people / you / their future partner? This is what he is teaching them is acceptable!!!!

You absolutely need to end it.

He sounds awful, so sorry 8

He’s disgusting. Time to end it. Is there anything practical you need to do to make that happen?

You know the answer to this .

He’s disgusting
How old is your child?

My husband calling me a fat cunt would be a deal breaker . No going back .

I’m not surprised you feel done. You should be done with someone who calls you horrible names in front of your child in response to being challenged.

I know it’s easy for us to say leave but you need to think about it.

Someone would only call me a fat cunt once. No one who loves you or even likes you would say that.

Yeah anyone be it friend or partner called me they disgusting word they’d be out of my life.

You need to end this.