To think this is my brother's fault?

[allthegoodusersaretaken]

My brother and his wife announced her pregnancy last week (via text - relevant). I told my teenagers, as I assumed he'd tell me if I wasn't meant to. Turns out he didn't want me to tell them - but there was no indication in his message. They're now really upset about it. I appreciate that it can't be nice to have your pregnancy announced without permission, but it's not like I put it on Facebook or anything. Surely it's common sense that I'd tell my kids?

Yeah he’s being unreasonable.

Weird, why doesn’t he want them to know? Have they a history of loss or is it very early?

Did he give a reason as to why he was upset you had told them?

He just said something along the lines of "what if something happens" (even though my kids' younger sibling was stillborn so it's not like they wouldn't understand )

Yup he should have been specific about you not telling them if that's what he wanted.

Yes, he is probably being unreasonable. However, I allow pregnancy + first year of life for first born preciousness/mad behaviour from the parents

He’s being a dick. I bet his child is going to be the centre of the universe. King baby.

I’d tell him straight that it is 100% normal to tell your kids in this situation. Not just normal, expected in fact. It would be weird if you had not told your teens. I’d be straight with him now or there’s going to be years of this self obsessed bullshit going on.

I have no idea why people have become so precious about things lately. Honestly some of the drivel I see on FB about pregnancy/birth announcements is just ridiculous attention seeking nonsense. If he didn't want specific people to know then he should have said, YANBU.

Yep his fault

Yep totally unreasonable if he doesn’t want people you don’t tell people. You pass on news unless told not to .

Do they have form for this kind of inane drama? Your brother is being ridiculous. I'd be reminding him that you're not a mind reader.

so it's a pfb then.

It’s sort of sweet your brother thinks your teens will be that interested in the progress of the pregnancy. Hasn’t he met any teens lately? Of course you weren’t unreasonable. Nod and smile, nod and smile.

IMO telling one person = telling one person plus partner plus children unless instructed with good reason not to. I would also tell parents unless instructed not to.

I can see why they might be nervous. After my first miscarriage I didn’t want lots of people to know when I was pregnant at first in case I miscarried again. But he should have told you that.

He’s being totally unreasonable. If I tell someone something without saying it’s not to be passed on or only selectively passed on them I assume the rest of that person’s household will know (obviously not NSFW material passed on to kids).

Guessing it’s his first?