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Ex has message me? AIBU

14 replies

RealGroovyChick · 16/05/2021 12:03

So the other day I went onto Instagram and I had a message from someone I was briefly seeing for around 2 months, but this was 4 years ago, we haven't spoken since then as he told me he wanted to get back with his ex and that they were living with an illness that they would eventually die from, but I took him to all of his hospital appointments. He is no longer with that ex and now lives 200 miles away with a new partner. He said he was gutted when I'd cut him off, but how could he not expect me to do so when he wanted to get back with an ex. He now wants me to meet him next week for food as he is coming back to my home town. Do you think his new girlfriend knows he is in my DMs? Am I the one in the wrong for feeling guilty?

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JackieTheFart · 16/05/2021 12:12
  1. Why are you giving this any headspace at all, it was FOUR YEARS AGO
  1. Why would you feel guilty for him contacting you? Just delete the message and forget about it.
bridgetreilly · 16/05/2021 12:14

Delete the message and ignore.

Treacletoots · 16/05/2021 12:14

What she said ^^^ 100 times

PixieLaLa · 17/05/2021 01:51

“He is no longer with that ex and now lives 200 miles away with a new partner.”

He has a partner why are you even entertaining the idea Hmm

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/05/2021 01:56

He's had to go pretty far back in his contacts to get someone to consider cheating with him. 4 years.

SunIsComing · 17/05/2021 06:16

Just ignore him. Simple.

Wiredforsound · 17/05/2021 06:20

He’s coming back to visit his mum and wants to see if he can get a shag while he’s here. Block and delete.

notsureishould · 17/05/2021 06:30

@Wiredforsound

He’s coming back to visit his mum and wants to see if he can get a shag while he’s here. Block and delete.
Yep
KarlUrbansWife · 17/05/2021 06:47

YABU to give him any headspace at all. 2 months is hardly a relationship and it was 4 years ago. Block him and go back to doing whatever it was you were doing.

MoonshineTuttiFrutti · 17/05/2021 06:48

How do you know so much about him?

Theunamedcat · 17/05/2021 06:49

He is probably needing someone who can give him a lift to his appointments again

mainsfed · 17/05/2021 06:52

YABU to even entertain this shit. Does he really have this fatal illness or is it a way to make people feel sorry him?

Wannabangbang · 17/05/2021 06:55

I'd see what he wants just because I'm nosey but he has a partner so what does he want from you? Could he want money or a quick fumble, who knows

UseOfWeapons · 17/05/2021 07:23

Block him and delete his contact information.
No good can come of this, he has a partner, and it was 4 years ago.
Time to move on.

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