To not want her to pick son up?

[Landja]

Son really struggles with naps and will take ages to settle, he'll only nap in his pushchair. Yesterday me and partner finally got him settled and he was going to sleep. We then got to partners mums and she picked him up and of course he started screaming again. I then tried to settle him again and he wouldn't so he didn't sleep much yesterday and he was overtired for bedtime so he took ages to settle then aswell when he's usually good at nighttime sleep.

His mum just said don't worry he'll be fine if he misses one nap. He is her first grandchild but I have no idea why she needed to wake him up. She didn't see him much when he was a newborn but she saw him often (as partner lived with her at the time).

Aibu?

Never wake a sleep baby. He'll only be grumpy.

Op I'm a gp I wouldn't ever wake my gs up. I can see why she did though. It always fine when grans there. (Ot that's what I think) a little ignorant I know. I would wake him up yourself before you go there again. I would also try not to worry about baby sleeping in the day. My routine was to not allow any sleep past 3.30. From age 6months. It worked as they all slept at night.

Nope definitely not on. He was asleep because he needed the sleep. Next time just be firm and ask her not to wake him up.

Babies in nicu being woken every 2/3 hours is different, generally they need to be fed little and often I've had 2 and the minute they were off the feeding schedule no one was allowed to wake them up if they were actually sleeping for once 🤣

@Landja

He fell asleep on the way, we were trying to get him to sleep before but he wouldn't even though we could tell he was tired. She knew he was asleep but she said he'd be fine missing a nap but after that he didn't go back to sleep and he wouldn't settle last night so me and partner didn't get much sleep nor did DS.

Your answer is here. She woke him from a nap prematurely as her need to cuddle and interact with him (Albeit tired and grumpy DS) over rode his need to have a sleep. You have the outcome of what happens if she tries to do it again and it's a big fat NO!

If he's asleep don't wake a sleeping overtired baby (/toddler), experience teaches you that.

So YANBU and tiger mummy it next time. "Step away from the baby or we will take him home as he's sleeping and gets very unwell/ overtired and miserable later, if you wake him up too early from his nap!"

It sounds like I'm in the minority here, but I don't think you should ever pick up a sleeping baby just for the hell of it Minority or not, I totally agree. Poor wee mite being woken up and poor parents.