No one responds to messages anyone?

[Mrtumbleisabitscary]

Or is it just to me 🙈

I’ve noticed recently that I barely get any texts back from a fair few people, or if I do, it takes days/weeks. I’m not just talking friends, companies I’m enquiring to about their services (eg- need my DD’s birthday cake making, need our tree cutting etc)
I’m really busy too with a toddler, but still always text back, not always straightaway, but within a fairly short time frame. Some just don’t reply at all 🤷🏻‍♀️This didn’t seem to happen before..where is everyone
Is it just me?

*Anymore 🙄

Can we get an edit button please 🙏

And...even on here 🤣

@Mrtumbleisabitscary

And...even on here 🤣

I'm guilty of reading messages, relying in my head and never getting round to typing it.

For companies though I'd try somewhere else. I wouldnt want to go with people who aren't responsive - what happens if something goes wrong and you need them to sort it out?

hahaha.
I reply quickly to emails but even colleagues can take weeks to reply, or never reply.
WhatsApp or Texts... I dunno. I have to shift gears to get into a convo & hard to make the time.

I'm a quick replier. Some of my friends start every message with "sorry I thought I'd replied to this.." Makes me feel a bit forgotten if I'm honest.

With companies I've had a right faff trying to get quotes for decorating. One did eventually come round and quote, then didnt reply to arrange a date.

I'm not smelly or weird I promise!

Yes! All the time with companies/services. I’ve had it loads with wedding suppliers, which I think is really bad when you’re usually asking to pay them silly money for some non-essential luxury, I think customer service should be very high on their list of priorities!

There are two types of people ... those who reply quickly and those who don’t ... I’m a quick replier and I confess to feeling hurt and ignored by the second type .
My problem I know ... but I’ve decided I’m going to let my friendships slide with the slow / no repliers

I've got a sister and a friend on Facebook who lives in another town.
Both of them waffle at me. Big rabty paragraphs about the kids having colds. The house being a mess. The stressful food shop etc. I often can't be arsed to reply so I read and don't reply. But they will hear from me eventually. It's just pointless chit chat.

People have got so used to expecting you to be available.

Businesses though that's different!

I hate social media and don't use it - problem solved. Same with mobile. It's a PAYG, I last put £20 on it three years ago and it mostly lays uncharged in the bottom of my handbag.

This exact topic is in two other threads this week and today…

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4239385-To-think-it-s-rude-to-ignore-text-or-WhatsApp-messages

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4239385-To-think-it-s-rude-to-ignore-text-or-WhatsApp-messages

@Crankley I’m talking simple texts/WhatsApp how do you communicate with people though?

@Frankiethebubblefish I didn’t see 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sorry double post this is the other link

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4245883-rude-not-to-open-messages?msgid=107397604#107397604

I do get annoyed with companies that don’t even acknowledge that they have received your message. I don’t necessarily expect them to respond the same day. However, it doesn’t take much to set up an auto response to state that we got your message and we will try to respond on x amount of time.

With friends and family. I must admit I am very guilty of responding in my head and then forgetting about it.

I just had work done at home. Contacted two companies. Both had a six to eight week wait but one replied quickly and the other took days to reply. I went with the one who replied quickly

I think people are tired of always being available and having to respond quickly to texts and messages. I don't think it is individual messages but the overall quantity and feeling of expectation/demands.

However, many of these tradespeople are experiencing massive pent-up demand suddenly being released. Prices have gone up 300% percent and no-one feels the need to even have the courtesy to respond to potential customers if they know they won't be able to fit them in for months, by which time they might have found another tradesperson. What they don't realise is actually no-one is available and the job will go to whoever is most polite about their waiting list and less profiteeering.

I’m in a freelance industry and my first mentor’s golden rule was ‘every email needs to be answered within 24h’. I’ll be eternally grateful to her for teaching me that.

Work, I never let more than 24h pass before I reply. Like you say, customers aren’t going to be impressed if it takes you weeks to get back to them.

Personal messages, it really depends. Never takes me more than an hour to reply to my mum or best friend, but then there are messages from acquaintances that clearly are there to initiate a longer conversation, and sometimes I don’t have the time or headspace to start it. If it’s important, of course I’ll reply. But if it’s just someone telling me about how their new dog photography hobby is going or what their toddler ate for lunch, then it won’t be very high up my list of priorities.

People are busy, and not always glued to their phones and feeling like they have to answer every message.

I really dislike text messages. I don't think communication by text should be expected at least in the first instance for any business really. If you want a service, surely you pick the phone up and speak to someone or send an email?

I'm crap at texting back. Texts are way too conversational so it's never just 1, it becomes a whole chatty conversation and I just can't be arsed with it.

I've put a request for a certain household service (think handyman type of thing) on our local Facebook page - saying at the end in big bold letters MESSAGE ME IF YOU ARE INTERESTED. I've had loads of comments on the page, from people recommending others and people attaching details of their services. I reckon if somebody can't be arsed to message as as it says in the post then probably won't be arsed to do the job. Only one person has responded and if he can do the job and doesn't charge too much he is the one that will get the job. Like you - why don't people reply!!!! ( and I've been waiting for my sister to reply to me for nearly 2 weeks now...)

I don't text back quickly, sometimes it is because I am busy and can't reply, other times I need to check dates/diaries etc. I am also tired and haven't the energy to keep messaging and replying.

I find leaving people waiting on invitation replies rude, and I always try to reply quickly. If it is just chitchat then what is the great rush exactly?
Why does anyone ever need a quick reply if it is not urgent?

I don't get the urgency, and assume people have low self confidence if they need instant replies for validation.

Mrtumbleisabitscary I communicate by having a telephone conversation or by e-mail or Skype. The latter two are preferable as I'm hard of hearing. Communication is a two way thing and no-one has the right to demand immediate attention and responses from another person.

I last sent/received a text about six months ago and have zero interest in being zapped by constant messages. No idea at all about FB or Whatsapp which appear to exist for self absorbed people to endlessly talk about themselves and their lives.

Most of my friend reply quickly but I do have one friend who is just rubbish at replying. It's her, not me.

Since the advent of texting and social media, good manners have disappeared.

I tend to be a bit of a text conversationalist but some of my friends really aren't!