I met my dh young and we have built our wealth and life together so I’m in a totally different situation.
My friend met a lovely guy a while back now. He is wealthy but also has 4 children from a previous relationship which he sees a lot and provides financial support. My understanding is that his ex comes from a wealthy family also.
Anyway, here is the aibu. He has made it clear that he doesn’t want to get married as he’s concerned that a divorce would impact how he can support his dc and that he plans to split his money between his dc when he passes and that a marriage would just complicate everything. They would like to have a baby together and he has said that their child would be treated equally when it comes to school fees, savings, inheritance etc. My friend, however, is really set on getting married for the reasons everyone mentions on here like financial security etc. especially if she were to give up work. I think she resents how much he does for his dc and thinks that if they’re together, she should be entitled to 50% of everything.
To address her concerns about financial security, he has said that if they have a baby, he will purchase her a buy to let outright (to the tune of around 400k) and put it in her name. She then has a house to fall back on should the worst happen and she has a monthly income. Obviously this amount is a fraction of his wealth. He has made it very clear he doesn’t want to get married. My friend, however, won’t let it drop and I’m worried she’s going to drive this guy away.
Aibu to think that his suggestion isn’t a bad one? I certainly wouldn’t be giving 400k to someone I had no intention of staying with. I’m just interested in hearing other people’s views.
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User135792468 · 16/05/2021 08:58
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