... have a discussion about your sex life (in a LTR) if there is an issue?
DH and I have had an irregular (usually months, occasionally weeks) sex life for the past 5ish years. Life has been very challenging at points during that time (young kids, illness, grief) and so there has been an impact on our relationship.
However, after another instance of me instigating and him turning me down, I got really frustrated last night and brought up how the lack of sex is making me feel.
This is a conversation we have on repeat and nothing ever gets resolved. He says he is interested, enjoys it when it happens and would like it more - but then nothing changes.
I don’t know if we are just mis-matched (never used to be and been together 15+ years) but I am feeling miserable and frustrated. The sex is good when we have it, but I now feel like I am pressuring him (or guilt tripping as he put it) if I try to talk about the lack of it. If he then tries something, I feel like it’s out of obligation and I can’t relax (which I know is stupid, but that’s how I feel...)
Any tips for how we can have a frank conversation about this and move forward?
P.S I name changed for this and hope it works.