Nanny help AIBU?

[Nanny1256]

Hello, I’m 22 and I look after a 3 year old boy, he’s starting to hit me and tell me to go away. I asked his mum about this and she says he does the same to her. He does NOT get told off for this. I started to tell him no hitting and his dad told me it was not my job to discipline him and it was his parents job. I told him that if I can not tell tell him off and sit him on the naughty step then I will find another family to help. I do not get paid enough to deal with being hit all the time. AIBU?

YANBU. I agree with you - but I guess they have some reason of other for not disciplining, and it is up to them whether or not to do things like the naughty step.

I think you should look for a new family to nanny for, one where you won;t get hit!

If you work with kids, the parents really need to have your back when it comes to discipline.
if they don't, walk away, life's too short.

Absolutely yanbu!

It doesn’t have to be the naughty step - I’m personally not a fan - but there has to be some sort of other age appropriate consequence that he’ll understand. Otherwise it’s like saying he’s allowed to hit you.

It’s ridiculous that you are not being supported by the parents in disciplining their child. What do they think would happen at nursery or school? Sounds like with that parenting attitude they will end up with a spoiled brat! It’s normal toddler behaviour but does need to be handled. Find another family if you cannot come to an agreement with the parents to support you.

YANBU at all. Leave as soon as you can.

I'd start looking for another family if I were you.

Absolute madness that the parents don't think it's your job to discipline their child! The dad sounds hard work and I think with those kind of attitudes things will only get harder. They'll likely have the same issue with the next nanny.

I'd look for another family, however, make sure you have a conversation about discipline before taking another position. Understand what the parents would do to discipline (some might not like the naughty step approach), and work with them on it.

You do need to discuss discipline with the parents - they may not agree on the naughty step but you should be able to agree on an approach and they should back you up with this. Even if my nanny and I have different rules for things I tell my children that when they’re with her it’s her rules.

The naughty step is what they use on their 8 year old!! So that’s what I use with the 3year old and he seems to do it when’s he told too! It’s annoying they won’t listen to me.