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FinallyDecided · 15/05/2021 19:05

I filed for divorce today. We did it together in fact. All amicable. 10 years married, no DC, death by a thousand cuts and it's a relief to finally have cut the knot after years of indecision.

Will need to sell the house but apart from that there are few obstacles.

But whilst I'm 100% sure it's the right thing, and feel immense relief, I'm also very scared. Of being alone and maybe never meeting anyone else. Of facing the world without my companion of the past 10 years.

I'm 41 now. Did I wait too long to divorce? What are the chances of meeting someone who I spark with at this point in my life (I don't fancy people easily at all)? I know being on my own is better than in an unhappy relationship and I do enjoy my own company, and I am fulfilled in my career and hobbies, but still...

The unknown is so scary, please tell me it will be ok!

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Sparky321 · 15/05/2021 20:43

Hi, I'm in a similar situation 43 and starting again after 20 years. Just wanted to say good luck and that definitely being out of a bad relationship is better than being in.

Sideorderofchips · 15/05/2021 20:49

Similar here. 36 and 15 years down the line and getting divorced.

I've decided I don't want another relationship again.

Givemecoffeeplease · 15/05/2021 21:24

All I know is your chances for happiness can only have increased with this massive step forwards - for both of you. I wish you love and peace and happiness and hot sex with a new partner very soon.

FinallyDecided · 16/05/2021 18:34

Thank you! Smile and good luck to all of us Wine onwards and upwards.

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billy1966 · 16/05/2021 18:46

41 is a great age OP.

You have many great years and experiences to look forward to.

Why wouldn't you meet someone.

Take a little time to heal and look forward to a great future.

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katy1213 · 16/05/2021 19:01

Your 40s are a great time to be single! Young enough to enjoy them - old enough to know what you're doing. Never mind meeting someone else - if it happens, it happens - just focus on having a great time for yourself.

FinallyDecided · 17/05/2021 11:43

@katy1212 "Young enough to enjoy them - old enough to know what you're doing" - I LOVE this, thank you, just the boost I needed!

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PoTheDog · 17/05/2021 11:49

Don't be scared OP :)

And not fancying people easily is good. It means that when it happens you know it's real. Far worse to be someone who ends up "fancying" anyone that gives them attention because they enjoy the attention rather than actually the person.

With the country just starting to reopen etc, it's a good time to be building your new life, with lots of new opportunities

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