Don't want to see ex's new house!

[Cally23]

Probably being pathetic and U.

Horrid divorce with ex - Let's say if only pants DID catch on fire. Anyway he's ended up in a big detached house despite crying poor in court and lives with the OW he said didn't exist.

I've been spared picking up kids from him as he's been doing all the driving thus far as it's convenient for him to do so.

It's suited me not bc i don't want to pick the kids up but because I've enjoyed being shielded from his new life and the lies which I feel will be thrown in my face and not sure how I'm going to react.

Seems a bit pathetic to ask to pick them up from elsewhere so do I just put my big girls pants on and deal with it?

Please advise if you've had to do this - it sucks.

AIBU?

The best revenge is living your best life.

If you let the pickup and his house become something meaningful to you then you're not doing yourself any favours. Do whatever you need to reframe it - music, a treat, whatever.

If you find it easier to do drop off and let him do pickup then do it that way.

But don't let this thing be a totem.

Agree totally with PP. If your children are young you're likely to have to face this at some point. Do it the first time, I promise it will get easier. You could have worked it out as being bigger and better in your mind than it actually is and you'll be pleased to see it isn't.
Good luck!