Friendships won’t be made or broken based on how people got through lockdown.

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Was confidently told this recently and I’m bemused, this is not my experience at all. Am I being unreasonable in thinking this isn’t true? And that actually the opposite is much more likely to be true??

I thought a lot less of the neighbour who berated me for taking DDs with me to the supermarket last April. Online and click and collect impossible. We had just finished isolating due to DH and DD having coughs, so very low on food. DH was due to work 10days straight in his vital job (but not NHS).
Apparently I should have gone when they were at school, like she did....

I've put yanbu. Lockdown has changed me and my behaviours and will change some friendships because of this. The last year has taught me which friends I really want in my life. I wont fall out with anyone but I'm keeping my circle much smaller

That being said I haven't seen anyone behave in a certain way over the last year that has made go "omg have you seen how X is dealing with lockdown? I'm staying well away from her"

It has definitely made me reevaluate things, including myself and my friendships.

I’ve become closer to one friend. It’s lovely. 🥰

I think a lot of it will come down to if you’ve missed the person/just got used to not speaking etc. No big fall outs but things have changed and maybe can’t be picked up/there’ll be a lot of apathy born from new habits.

I’ve got three friends who have kept in regular touch, but one of those lives abroad anyway.

But the two I’d have called my best friends, I’m just not sure we’ll survive in the same way. They’ve both had major life changes anyway, and Covid has widened the gap even more. It’s not that they’re broken, it’s just we’ve drifted.

Same. I think it’s inevitable it would effect friendships, some people you’ll have gotten closer to in a special or important way, others you’ll have ended up further apart from, for maybe a variety reasons. Friendships can be changed/made/broken for a lot less than a global pandemic and months of lockdowns!