He’s done it again

[Glitterzzz]

I posted about a week ago with my husband and making a comment about my body.

A week later today it’s a important day for our family as it’s Eid. We visited a bakery but I waited in the car as I have been many times recently and when he came out with our child, sometime later as we were driving he said

‘ they have a girl working there now ... she’s Turkish... she was so so sweet to our child .. and she’s very very pretty ( emphasis on very pretty )

This didn’t go down well with me

We don’t have that relationship where we comment on other people

We never have

Until now

I got angry

he eventually said sorry

Why today ? Why on Eid ? Why in the car with our son would he need to emphasise the beauty of another women ?

I have mentioned more than a handful of times lately how unattractive and gross I feel

I hate him

Does he often make you feel bad about yourself?

Well firstly you shouldn’t be ruining this day further for yourself by wasting it on here.

You feel gross so are probably more sensitive to him saying a girl is pretty. I think you have to weigh up why he would have said that, whether it was just a passing comment or it was said to hurt you.

Regardless you need to be there for you and do something about you feeling gross for yourself.

Eid Mubarak OP.

He sounds grim.

Are you thinking of leaving him if you hate him?

I’m starting to think I might as well. A lodger would he easier

OP think about if the roles and genders were reversed and you had made a similar comment in his presence? How would he have reacted? (only you know the answer to that). If he would react negatively then he is wrong for doing that to you. Food for thought. Don't put up with double standards and mind games. Hugs

You need to chill out. It's not as if he said he wanted to sleep with her.

If I had dared to say a similar thing he would have hit the roof completely . He is a jealous man and we have never spoken of other people like this until today. I don’t feel respected

My dh and I have the relationship where we can comment on other people and if we think they're attractive or not, however if one of us didn't like it then we wouldn't do it.
I think it's very disrespectful in that instance.
Tell him what you think of his comment and ask him not to do it again, if he does then I think you need to decide if its a big enough issue for you to not be together anymore.

Next time you see a window cleaner /work man make some similar comment.... I would be hoping he chokes on his cake in your shoes...

I’m a bitch I would have said oh yeah I seen a fit bloke the other day wearing a tight grey pair of sweatpants, wink wink

@Glitterzzz you sound really unhappy. Ignore the flippant remarks on here from some of the posters. MN is such a bitchy place sometimes. I empathise

That is disrespectful if it isn’t something you both feel comfortable with.

Finding yourself gross isn’t ok, we all pick out things on ourselves that we see as flaws, it’s important we don’t let them consume us.

Eid Mubarak ☪️

Eid Mubarak.

Why today, with your son? Why not? He can treat you like shit whenever he feels like it.

He's supposed to be your life partner and team mate, OP. I couldn't be with someone who made me feel ugly and disrespected. It's a miserable way to live.

For my relationship this would be fine, me and husband have that kind of chat BUT if he knows you don't have that kind of relationship then it was wrong of him to do that.

Eid Mubarak, OP! 🌝

I think you need a serious chat with him, he has been very disrespectful and in a really horrible way, in front of your child. He had no need to tell you about the girl in the shop, that was unnecessary and shit of him.

Thanks .

Eid Mubarak ❤️
He was out of order on any day.

Would you comment on his appearance?

If so, what would be the upshot?