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to be spiralling into actual depression, because of the rain? Is that pathetic?

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sadpapercourtesan · 13/05/2021 14:46

It's just been unrelenting, filthy grey skies and pelting rain, for days Sad

It doesn't seem to have got light properly since at least last Thursday. I realised this morning (when I woke up and was assailed by black thoughts, always a warning sign) that I'm on the brink of a proper depressive episode. My tried and tested strategies for pulling myself out of it (going for a long walk in nature, meeting a friend for a chat, gardening) are all off the table. I can't settle to anything and am feeling tearful, short-tempered and panicky. I'd made an early start on gardening this year which I was feeling really positive about - now my trays of little plants and cuttings etc are drowning in the rain, and my garden is a mass of weeds.

It's a bit pathetic isn't it, to be falling into depression because it's raining? Is anyone else feeling this bad?

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Goodasgolden · 20/05/2021 06:25

Not pathetic at all OP. This pissing rain is ridiculous. It’s nearly the end of May and we’ve had one nice weekend of weather. I have taken to stomping about the house muttering about the weather. I’m fuming about it! As soon as lockdown eased the pissing rain started. We best have an absolutely cracking summer after this.

MsAnnFrope · 20/05/2021 19:06

I normally love spring- even in rainy Lancashire it is not normally this wet and cold. I have my heating on and it’s the end of May!
It’s really getting me down. Im already on prescribed vitamin D so I’m not sure what else to do to ward off the lack of sun blues?? Except move somewhere warm!

the80sweregreat · 20/05/2021 19:56

My prediction is it'll be boiling hot or a heatwave in August and I'll be on the ' it's too hot ' thread!
(I like this weather but among my friends and family I am very much in the minority!)

UrbanRambler · 22/05/2021 00:59

The gale force winds over the last couple of days have been the rancid cherry on top of the sh** cake, this spring has been the worst I can remember. Thank goodness for central heating.
The weather presenter just mentioned that we might even get a frost in parts of the UK tomorrow night - annoying as I put some bedding plants out last week and they are taking a real hammering now. Luckily I still have some seedlings in the greenhouse for insurance. I feel really sorry for the farmers, the weather this spring has been dreadful. It looks like it might improve towards the end of next week though.

WrongWayApricot · 22/05/2021 02:11

I really like this weather, but I can see why it'd get you down Sad I don't remember it raining once in April though and it felt so strange and dusty and hot. So I'm kind of glad to have the rain in the wrong month and hopefully won't get a drought later on in the year and I couldn't be bothered to wash my car

garlictwist · 22/05/2021 04:49

I feel exactly the same. I am so bored of checking the met office app waiting for a break in the rain or an improvement.

Yesterday I decided "fuck it" and went out on my bike anyway for some exercise. It was awful, I returned covered in mud and drenched to the skin.

I am meant to be going camping next weekend. A few days ago the forecast was showing warm sunshine. I genuinely felt ecstatic and hopeful. Now inevitably it's changed to be cold and crap again and I just think "what's the point?"

I have very metreological moods. I crave sunshine and warm weather. This is so hard to bear.

Bedsheets4knickers · 22/05/2021 10:27

I was just about to start a thread about this awful weather . It's driving me demented and still no let up . After what felt like the longest lockdown this is just the nail in the coffin . Crazy to think it's our longest day next month and we are yet to have a decent sun 😫

awesomekillick · 22/05/2021 10:42

I'm beside myself with rage at this pissing awful weather and feel the lowest I've felt for 20 years. I might have to ask my GP to up my antidepressant dose as I honestly feel so depressed

PerveenMistry · 22/05/2021 10:47

I'm the opposite. Rainy days make me feel cosy, energized and productive. I hate the glare of sun.

Here in the US (midwest) we've had a dry spring and from below-freezing temps three weeks ago to 90s and humid this week and next. My garden is suffering and it's too hot to work outdoors, to hot indoors to clean properly. I hate AC but probably will have to turn it on today just to keep the dust from open windows down.

Would give anything for a few weeks of rainy spring weather. Sigh.

Youngatheart00 · 22/05/2021 10:49

And so it continues.....😫

SmoothSailing · 22/05/2021 10:58

I’m bloody sick of it too, we have a week booked in Dorset over half term and if it’s crappy weather that will just be the icing on the cake...

huuuuunnnndderrricks · 22/05/2021 11:00

We all feel the same , weather is so shit for nearly June 🥺

ScreamingMeMe · 22/05/2021 11:05

It's been really affecting my mood and energy levels too, OP. I don't normally mind a bit of dull, rainy weather but it's been relentless for weeks. And it's MAY ffs. I try and get out of the house and go for walks as I don't mind getting wet really, but it's not the same as being out in the sunshine.

I HATE it.

IfNot · 22/05/2021 11:18

The problem isn't that it rains and can be cool in May-that was always the case in the UK-the problem is that our seasons are becoming really messed up. I have been noticing this for years; April and May have switched places generally and for the last 3 years at least we have had very very dry Aprils (last April I don't think there was any rain at all where I live) and then all the rain we needed in April comes in May, so it's just not spread out. Then we get weeks of really hot humid weather, then more weeks of solid rain.
This is not what UK weather used to be like. It was famous for having sun and showers in the same day. A few hot days, then a cold spell. We never had solid, relentless dry, or solid relentless rain. I don't ever remember as a kid seeing the grass go brown in April (or even July ). THAT's what is sending me into depression-the fact that we have lost something about this country that I always loved, that it was never really too hot or too cold, and even if you got a bit fed up with relentless sun, or rain, in a day or too the weather would switch up.
I also find it quite scary how hard it is to grow anything now, and have mostly given up.
Sorry, not helping am I!? I do go for walks in the rain though-have to get outside, its the only thing to do.

the80sweregreat · 22/05/2021 11:36

They said today on the forecast it'll cheer up by the end of next week , so the half term holidays might be nicer.
As a kid I remember nice warm sunny days but bearable and pleasant to go out in.
Now it feels more extreme. The heatwave in 2019 and last year here was too much.
It's never ' just right ' anymore.
(I do admire people who look cool in the heat and can lap it all up !)

ScreamingMeMe · 22/05/2021 11:39

See, I don't particularly like very hot temperatures, but it's the light from the sunshine that I like/need.

PerveenMistry · 22/05/2021 23:24

@IfNot

The problem isn't that it rains and can be cool in May-that was always the case in the UK-the problem is that our seasons are becoming really messed up. I have been noticing this for years; April and May have switched places generally and for the last 3 years at least we have had very very dry Aprils (last April I don't think there was any rain at all where I live) and then all the rain we needed in April comes in May, so it's just not spread out. Then we get weeks of really hot humid weather, then more weeks of solid rain. This is not what UK weather used to be like. It was famous for having sun and showers in the same day. A few hot days, then a cold spell. We never had solid, relentless dry, or solid relentless rain. I don't ever remember as a kid seeing the grass go brown in April (or even July ). THAT's what is sending me into depression-the fact that we have lost something about this country that I always loved, that it was never really too hot or too cold, and even if you got a bit fed up with relentless sun, or rain, in a day or too the weather would switch up. I also find it quite scary how hard it is to grow anything now, and have mostly given up. Sorry, not helping am I!? I do go for walks in the rain though-have to get outside, its the only thing to do.
Totally agree.
OnTheBrink1 · 22/05/2021 23:57

I am in my 40’s and I don’t think I ever remember such a cold May. May is usually my favourite month. The month where it’s not too hot but lovely warmer winds, shorts and a tshirt but not burning hot. No wasps yet. Plenty of picnics and mornings with coffee in the garden.
I think I have been able to sit outside in the garden for a total of 2 times this year in total.
April was dry but so so cold. It was 2 degrees and snowing at one point.
11 degrees here today and tomorrow looks the same.
I feel that no matter what the weather is for the rest of year, the best month is lost now. Been looking forward to it so much too.

UrbanRambler · 23/05/2021 17:46

Good news... BBC weather forecast now shows a definite improvement from next Tuesday onwards... much more sun, far less rain. Smile Also, June 1st looks sunny and warm! (south coast area) Not long now... fingers crossed.

UrbanRambler · 23/05/2021 17:48

@OnTheBrink1 I feel the same way - May is normally a lovely month, but see above - there is hope for the last week.

di2004 · 23/05/2021 19:03

I actually don’t mind rain, as long as we get a few sunny days along the way everything is fine. Unfortunately I also prefer dark nights to light ones so I must be ‘odd’!!
Just embrace the weather as there’s nothing you can do really x

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