Am I right to ignore this weird behaviour or say something?

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Not much of an issue but just wondering if others experienced this or have some insight: been going to baby group for past 4 weeks. Met this lovely mum on first day and got chatting , our babies born 2 days apart and we had a lot in common. I really enjoyed chatting to her.

The next session I said hello to her and she was a little off. I ignored it thinking maybe she’s tired or just something going on. The session after I chatted to a lot of other mums and greeted her too but she ignored me. I didn’t think much of it until today I thought she was a little strange or maybe shy. But today she made an obvious and deliberate attempt to ignore me. I couldn’t care less but my baby crawled up to hers and she moved away really aggressively! My baby just clings to me and it was nice to see him wander off. He hasn’t hit her kid or anything which would make the situation make more sense.

It’s creating a horrible atmosphere for me as everyone is so lovely and chatty and her weirdness is making me a little annoyed. I feel like asking her what’s wrong but I’m thinking I just want to ignore her.

But yes I would just ignore it, it's not your problem.

I wouldn't bother saying anything to her, just ignore her completely, don't bother trying to be friendly or say hello. Just pretend she's not there. Enjoy your time with the other Mums.

I haven't RTFT but this must be a Mumsnet record if someone hasn't suggested that she's autistic yet.

I wouldn't say anything - just ignore her. You clearly can't like someone who behaves as unkindly as this. And not perceptively. It's possible you'll keep bumping into each other at groups and school. Does she think it isn't going to cause her inconvenience to have blanked a mum she could be introduced to again by another new friend?

Likely thing is what other posters have said that you've mentioned something to one of the other mums about where you or your partner work; it is somewhere she has a link with, and wants to keep the various sides of her life separate.

I have encountered this type of behaviour before too, and nearly always end up hearing from others of it being done to them too. I just shrug it off now, but any ridiculous PA crap like moving aggressively away from your baby, Id either raise an eyebrow or a small chuckle as I lift baby away and into a more friendly area - be a bit PA back but only enough to highlight that you have noticed her behaviour and find it amusing rather than being bothered by it

It's just a baby group. Just leave it and talk to someone else.

Maybe she has a personality disorder? I knew a woman similar to this, she would one day bring her child to my house for a play date with my DD and then I would see her out and about in town a day or so later and I would get the filthiest of looks, and she had a personality disorder that hadn’t yet been diagnosed.

Pressed too soon!

My son is 8 - some of the kids in his class he has been with since nursery when he was 3 so I’ve seen the parents at drop offs for 5 years, chatted to most of them at one point of another, had fairly long chats with some at parties.

There are several who despite this walk straight past me and look at me blankly if we cross paths at the school run. Full on act as if we’ve never met.

I think some people are either socially anxious or awkward or just plain odd. I wouldn’t take it too personally.