One day off

[TheWashingMachine]

I have one day off work this week. It is the first day I've got to myself since the pandemic began, in the morning I'm getting a haircut but in the afternoon I've said I'll see an old friend. She is exhausting, an alcoholic and involved in all sorts of rows with family, friends and neighbours. I'm dreading it I want to be supportive because she has alienated herself pretty badly but it feels like a duty. Wibu unreasonable to only see her for an hour?

Do you actually like her?

Save you’ve got the dentist/Dr at a certain time
And get out there

I used to like her but the alcoholism puts me off as she inevitably starts on the wine and it descends into a poor me monologue.

and she is quite an aggressive drunk

Cancel completely and enjoy your day. Squeeze her in on a random Saturday or something. Be completely selfish.

If she’s unpleasant to be around, do not give up your day to yourself.

put a time limit o or tbh i would just cancel, life too short and you only have the one day

Why are you spending time with her at all?

Honestly OP, just cancel.

Cancel otherwise your one day is going to be ruined. You'll be thinking about it all morning then living it on the afternoon, then re-living it in the evening ( if you're anything like me).
You deserve a day to look after yourself.

Honestly, I wouldn’t bother to see her at all

I feel bad she has literally fallen out with almost everyone, spoke to another mutual friend about who said she is still checks up on her regularly but it is a bit of a chore. She isn't a bad person but boozing does her no favours.

I'd keep it short. Tbh, I'd probably be one of the people who have dropped her... An alcoholic who doesn't want to change is exhausting. There's a reason she's mostly alone, now. She makes it miserable for anyone to spend time with her! I'm not so unselfish that I'd sacrifice a rare day off for someone I don't even really like.

Oh gawd just cancel

Ffs just cut her loose - she doesn’t want help or support - she wants someone to rant at.

Friendship is two-way. This is not a friendship.

Screw that, enjoy your ONE day off and treat yourself to the blessed peace.

You can see this friend another day.

We need to take care and be kind to ourselves first and foremost OP.

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A day of is precious, don't waste it doing things you don't want to do

Something has happened today which has made me change my reply to you twice. I settled on cancelling. Leaving after an hour would be worse imo.

Honestly just cancel. Enjoy your day.

Can you meet her somewhere dry, outside a coffee shop maybe? At least then you won’t have to listen to her when she’s been drinking, and she might cancel on you, which is down to her.

Is she getting help at all? I assume she considers you a friend, does she need help to get to an AA meeting? Have you asked her what's going on?
I'm very sorry that you're having to support a friend in need and I hope she can fix herself ASAP.

I'd cancel. If she's going to take up your free afternoon on your one day off for an excuse to day drink and treat you as free counselling, I'd cancel. Just because she's fallen out with so many people does not mean the onus falls on you to listen to her.

Definitely cancel

Yeah I think I’d cancel tbh

Cancel completely, I would.