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Pottedpalm · 12/05/2021 14:49

Stock up on sunhats and suitable cotton clothing, and sun block. Then give yourself a break and cherish your little one. Enjoy his babyhood and try not to fret. Easier said than done I know!

Pottedpalm · 12/05/2021 14:56

Stock up on sunhats and suitable cotton clothing, and sun block. Then give yourself a break and cherish your little one. Enjoy his babyhood and try not to fret. Easier said than done I know!

noirchatsdeux · 12/05/2021 15:01

@ No worries. I can remember my mother felt very guilty - the blister literally covered the whole of my back, it was absolute agony and I had to sleep on my front for a good couple of months afterwards. But kids are tough physically and it didn't stop me enjoyment of starting primary school!

Pottedpalm · 12/05/2021 15:02

Stock up on sunhats and suitable cotton clothing, and sun block. Then give yourself a break and cherish your little one. Enjoy his babyhood and try not to fret. Easier said than done I know!

Pottedpalm · 12/05/2021 15:07

Stock up on sunhats and suitable cotton clothing, and sun block. Then give yourself a break and cherish your little one. Enjoy his babyhood and try not to fret. Easier said than done I know!

sashh · 12/05/2021 15:08

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This really isn't something you need to worry about. Yes in an ideal world no baby / child would sunburn but life isn't perfect and long term affects for one patch of sunburn over a lifetime is, well not worth a second thought let alone worrying yourself into a state.

I've been sunburned many many times as a child, sometimes really badly but not as an adult. And as an adult I've been to Australia and Mauritius.

Your little boy is precious and I can assure you you will not let this happen again. He will be covered in sun block and wear a hat and you will know you are not being silly.

MatildaTheCat · 12/05/2021 15:13

Spring sunshine can be vicious. My DS burned the tips of both his ears aged about 2-3, they blistered and I felt responsible and awful. They healed absolutely fine and he’s a pale skinned, red head of 31 who dislikes sitting in the sun.

Honestly everyone has these parental fails. Your DS will be 100% ok and you won’t let it happen again. Hard though it is you have to get back in the saddle and get out and about, this time a little more mindful of sunscreen, hats and the shade. Don’t absolutely keep him in the shade for evermore, we need some exposure to sunlight.

Have a chat with your hv and take their advice.

Best wishes, parenting can be bloody painful.

rainyskylight · 12/05/2021 15:46

If the consequences were bad from the burn then the A&E team would have warned you. The baby is fine and it won’t happen again. Please take care of yourself you seem very fragile right now.

rainyskylight · 12/05/2021 15:49

If the consequences were bad from the burn then the A&E team would have warned you. The baby is fine and it won’t happen again. Please take care of yourself you seem very fragile right now.

sashh · 12/05/2021 16:07

OP

This really isn't something you need to worry about. Yes in an ideal world no baby / child would sunburn but life isn't perfect and long term affects for one patch of sunburn over a lifetime is, well not worth a second thought let alone worrying yourself into a state.

I've been sunburned many many times as a child, sometimes really badly but not as an adult. And as an adult I've been to Australia and Mauritius.

Your little boy is precious and I can assure you you will not let this happen again. He will be covered in sun block and wear a hat and you will know you are not being silly.

Flowerlane · 12/05/2021 16:29

Honestly give yourself a break

Obviously you are upset but it was mistake don’t be so hard on yourself.

I was the child that was forever burning in the sun no matter how much sun cream my mum put on me I burnt as soon as the sun came through the clouds. Even now as a adult I wear long sleeves a majority of the time even on the hottest day of the year. I had blisters when I was child more then once. I promise you I have no scars and I also haven’t had any problems because of it.

Stock up on sun cream, sun hats a parasol for the buggy etc and keep in the shade as much as possible and have a lovely summer with your little one.

If your worrying doesn’t ease in the next few days give your hv a call to have a little chat don’t feel you can’t talk to anyone or get help. If you need it ask.

Blacktothepink · 12/05/2021 16:40

My dh legs got sunburnt when he was a baby after he kicked his blanket off, back in the day when babies were left to sleep in the fresh air in their prams. He has no lasting effects. Please try not to worry

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Desperatelytrying123 · 12/05/2021 17:54

Thanks for the replies - I know I need to speak to somebody about it

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3Britnee · 12/05/2021 19:25

@Desperatelytrying123

I am really struggling and not sure what to do. My darling 6 week old baby was in the garden last week with in laws so they could meet him. My MIL held him in the sun and he got a sunburnt cheek which blistered. We took him to A and E and his burn has recovered.

I just can’t get over it. It has been weeks and I cry every day at what happened. Everytime I look at him I think about what has happened and that I have ruined his life because of the future effects of sunburn. It is to the point where I can’t even go outside. All I do is think into the future about how I don’t want to go on holidays or how I can prevent him from ever being out in the sun for prolonged periods of time.

I don’t really know what I am asking here. I just feel so sad.

I've read this before. At least twice.

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Desperatelytrying123 · 12/05/2021 19:29

@3Britnee what do you mean?

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shouldistop · 12/05/2021 19:29

Oh op, you poor soul. I remember feeling quite anxious after ds1. Your baby will be absolutely fine. Speak to your HV and tell her how anxious you feel, it's very common.
You really don't have to think about leaving your tiny baby just now anyway (unless you're going back to work soon). When the baby is bigger and more robust you'll feel better about it.

Footle · 12/05/2021 19:34

@Desperatelytrying123 , there's something wrong with the site today - lots of multiple postings of the same thing. Probably the person who said that thinks you've posted it before. But you haven't , it's the site repeating posts.

3Britnee · 12/05/2021 19:35

No, I've read this exact same thing several times on here over the years.

Enough4me · 12/05/2021 19:38

I had fairly high anxiety with DC1 for around the first 6 months and DC2 for about a month. Adjusting to a new significant responsibility is tough, particularly when you love your baby and cannot communicate to know how they are feeling. Be kind on yourself OP, this is a big change.

Talking with your HV could put your mind at rest that you doing what you are supposed to do and doing your best.

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Desperatelytrying123 · 12/05/2021 20:41

@Footle i noticed that too today.

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Desperatelytrying123 · 12/05/2021 20:42

@shouldistop I wish i could believe he will be fine. Catastrophic thinking.

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Desperatelytrying123 · 13/05/2021 10:09

@MatildaTheCat thank you for sharing. Glad your son is well x

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Desperatelytrying123 · 11/06/2021 23:20

I know this thread is a few weeks old but I am still really struggling with the thought my baby is going to get skin cancer. I don’t know how to feel better. Looking for a hand hold. Does anyone have any advice?

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WinoLino · 13/06/2021 11:38

Advice on here that isn't related to the sun burn will be really difficult to hear because to you, that's the critical incident that your brain can't distract from so just a disclaimer before I say the following:

I would say that there is a possibility that you have some sort of PND. That's not to discount the sun burn incident, I know how important that feels to you right now, however it's really common to get hooked into worries in this way with PND. I didn't comment before (despite seeing your thread) as I think it's entirely normal to have that degree of worry at the time of something worrying happening and not have PND but the fact that you are still totally preoccupied suggests to me that you might be unwell. Please consider contacting the GP, Well-being service if you have one in your area, a health visitor or at the very least, a trusted person in your life who can help you to identify if this has tipped over into depression.

I'm so sorry you are still struggling, it must feel pretty dark, I'm guessing it's going to feel worse with the sun/hot weather. Be kind to yourself

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Desperatelytrying123 · 02/07/2021 17:11

@WinoLino thank you for taking the time to respond. I do think this has tipped me into depression. I am still really sad and constantly worry about how I will keep DC out of the sun when older yet still lead the life I wanted to with DC which was outdoorsy and full of nature. Urgh I am just really struggling and yes the warm weather is not helping. I have contacted a therapist.

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