DH like to listen to things through headphones - watching TV on his phone whilst washing up, listening to music or podcasts whilst working, cleaning, tidying doing laundry, gardening, painting, going to sleep... Essentially unless we are watching TV, playing a game or eating, he has his headphones in. With working from home and not going out, I have noticed this so much more, and although this is not something new, I am finding it increasingly frustrating.
I cannot talk to him without getting his attention first. We can never have a spontaneous conversation. Also, when we are both working/busy and I want to ask him something quickly (e.g. what time can you have lunch? Have you fed the cat?) I find it very annoying, as I have to go into the room, tap him on the shoulder, wait for him to take his headphones out, and he always has this air that I've disturbed him in the middle of something, but he is ALWAYS busy with his headphones in, so I feel I have no choice.
He never hears the door, or his granny ringing on his iPad, or the timer on the oven beeping, or the washing machine shouting that it's finished, or anything that's going on, so I have to deal with all that stuff, or at the very least alert him to it.
On one hand, it is his way of getting stuff done, he's always done the same, and he likes it, so I have always put up with it.
On the other hand, I am currently pregnant and I made a comment about how he'll have to get used to not having his headphones in all the time when the baby comes. He was most bemused, and seemingly has no idea that it could be frustrating for me. (I'm imagining baby crying, oven and washing machine both beeping, postman at the door and DP oblivious!)
So AIBU to be annoyed by his headphone use?