OH's cavalier attitude to spreading illness

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I'm getting sick of OH's cavalier attitude toward spreading illness, quite literally much of the time.

He appears to have a very strong immune system and never gets sick, even when everybody around him is laid up with whatever at the time.

I've lost count of the amount of times he has brought his older children here when they're full of cold, tonsillitis, D&V without giving me so much as a heads up.

Which brings me to now. Me (pregnant) and my two have had an awful virus (covid negative) for a week now, coughing sneezing wheezing now me and DD have been vomiting and have a bad stomach. As usual OH is just fine

Its his day with DSC today and he has no intention of forewarning his ex that we're so unwell, so he's going to expose them to this just because he doesn't want to disrupt plans.

His ex is a single parent who also has a toddler so if she were to get this then what's she going to do when she needs to be laid up herself?

AIBU to think he's incredibly selfish and tell him exactly that?

Perhaps her visiting her elderly parents wasn't the best example, but that was just one of many scenarios that could mean she'd appreciate being told in advance if the children were likely to end up ill.

One of our symptoms (again, we're definitely covid negative) is an awful hacking cough and as far as I'm aware DSC school wouldn't accept them in if they were coughing like this.

Time off school, needing to test etc. all makes for a great deal of inconvenience that somebody might want to avoid therefore should definitely be told in advance.

She's happy to send them and I'm happy with that, I was just annoyed with him that he wasn't giving her all of the facts.

If it were me I wouldn't want to send mine because of the faff it would cause, plus I really hate being ill, but I respect her decision and I'm glad she's made it and been fully informed.