AIBU to just want to write...

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This might not make sense but I just wanted to rant...

I'm a step mum, I get on well with my DH's ex and he gets on well with her too. I have two beautiful bonus kids, I love them to bits! I'm so blessed to have them in my life. They come and stay with us regularly. Every time they go back to their mums my heart breaks. I hate having to say goodbye to them.

Their mum is a good mum, she loves them and they are well cared for. DSD (aged 5) often says that she wants to live with DH and I, and says that she doesn't want to go back to mummy's. I feel it's because their mum struggles to play with them and would rather sit them in front of the tv... DSD and her mum often butt heads and argue. Their mum often says how much better behaved for us they are... She has also said before that she thinks the kids would be better of living with us and that if they ever wanted to live with us she'd let them.

I would love for them to come and love with us as would DH, we just don't know where to start and how to go about it especially as we don't want to upset their mum.

I don't know what I'm asking or if I even asking anything but.... I just wanted to but fingers to keyboard

If you read this far Thankyou....

Kids are always better behaved in other people’s company. They always play-up for their own parents. I wouldn’t read much into.

I think taking dc from a loving parent is a little unfair. Maybe ask to increase contact.

If their mum has brought it up, then perhaps she feels the same - it's not something most people would say lightly!

How regularly do they come to you?

@Standrewsschool

Kids are always better behaved in other people’s company. They always play-up for their own parents. I wouldn’t read much into.

I think taking dc from a loving parent is a little unfair. Maybe ask to increase contact.

I agree, it's not something we would do lightly and one of the reasons it has happened yet!

@BoyTree

If their mum has brought it up, then perhaps she feels the same - it's not something most people would say lightly!

I worry that if they did come and live with us she would regret it and I don't want to upset her. Like I said we get on well and she does love those kids.

@Pumperthepumper

How regularly do they come to you?

They stay 2 nights a week and come over one other day a week and we go round to their mums to see them in the evenings on other days xx

They stay 2 nights a week and come over one other day a week and we go round to their mums to see them in the evenings on other days xx

Which days do they stay at yours and what day do they come without staying?