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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to just call in sick?

43 replies

PuddingJacker · 11/05/2021 19:50

I'm a trainee teacher at the moment. I'm supposed to do 8-12 hour each week of actual teaching across the four days that I am at school (we have university for the PGCE one day each week). Up until a few weeks ago, I got on really well with my mentor and everything was going really well. We have our meetings on Monday and everything was fine. Then, on Tuesday, she said we needed to talk so we set up a meeting so set one up for Wednesday. She said she'd heard really good things about me from my other qualified teachers but she couldn't see anything good about my teaching. I had my school active training session that afternoon and the lead came to me and said my mentor had complained multiple times that I don't know the names of one of my classes (I'd taught this class once, for one hour and learnt around 6/30 names - but this had been hindered because the systems had been down and I couldn't access the registers or seating plans for the class). I thought it was unreasonably harsh to complain multiple times that I didn't know their names when I'd only taught them one time (so, since the first complaint, had no further opportunity to learn them or demonstrate I knew them).
Since that day, I've had no positive feedback from my mentor but my feedback from my other teachers has all been really positive. My mentor undermines me in my lessons - in one lesson I sent a student out for punching another student and she said it was fine and brought him back in. She's also started bringing me into lessons that she can't control that aren't my timetabled classes. So, this week, I did 13 hours of actual teaching plus four hours assisting her with classes she can't control. That only leaves me with 3 planning hours when I'm supposed to have 10.
Another problem is that, as a trainee, I'm not given a laptop or computer at my school. I take my own laptop but for security reasons they won't let me onto the school wifi, so I hotspot off my phone. I can't hotspot off my phone anywhere in the school because the school has phone signal blockers installed (to stop the kids using their phones) and so I can't even check my work emails whilst I'm at work or plan any lessons. So, I have to do all my planning and everything after I get home.
Today I had a meeting with my mentor and she said that I don't have any friends in the department and no one gets on with me - which I really struggle to believe because there's a solid group of around six of us (all the same age-ish) in my department and we get together and chat and message outside of work. We have in-jokes and I spent a lot of time before work and breaks and lunchtimes etc talking. The other four members of the department (including my mentor) all have senior roles in the school so they have offices and don't hang out in the department staffroom (but I have pleasant conversations with them in the corridor etc). There haven't been any issues with anyone. When I mentioned to a couple of other people in the department what she said they suggested it might have been a joke or I completely misunderstood what she was saying because it's so untrue - but I definitely know exactly what she said. My mentor has said I need to wait in school until two hours after school finishes each day in the department staffroom so I can "make friends" with the other people who stay behind. Today, I waited and the only person there was my friend in the department who stayed to console me about what my mentor had said. She left half an hour after school finished so I sat, on my own, without internet access, for an hour and half.
This afternoon, I had a lesson that my mentor was observing and she tore me to shreds in her feedback. She criticised me for not having a powerpoint (because the classroom computer crashed and I couldn't put the powerpoint up), for not having the seating plan set up correctly (because there had been timetable changes no one told me about so a bunch of new kids turned up to my class without me being told) and for not having provided work to a student who went to the support centre instead of coming to class (because I didn't know she'd decide to go to the support centre instead of coming to class - because I'm not psychic).
Tomorrow, I'm teaching all five hours, only one of them is being observed by my mentor. But I know she's going to rip it to shreds and there's nothing that I can do about it. AIBU to just call in sick?

(Before I get jumped on for how few hours this is, these are just the teaching hours as a trainee. It doesn't include the time for doing form time, meetings, training sessions, observations, marking, planning, creating assessments, providing feedback, doing my academic assessments, duties, cover lessons etc).

OP posts:
lanthanum · 11/05/2021 20:38

Yes, you need to complain. You need some encouragement from your mentor, and you need the internet access sorting out.

Don't call in sick for tomorrow. You said you're teaching five lessons. Can you ask the teachers of those classes to do semi-formal observations of those lessons? If you finish the day with four reasonable observations and only one terrible one, that will boost your confidence no end, and you'll also have some evidence for your university tutor and the senior colleague in school that you're not all bad.

gamerchick · 11/05/2021 20:41

Thanks everyone for commenting. I'm not sure it's bullying because I don't think she means to upset me

It really really is bullying. Read it back.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 11/05/2021 20:43

Lovely, she doesn’t have your best interests at heart if she is making you unhappy enough to knock sick.

She should be helping to build you up - not break you down.

It is bullying. Snidey bullying. But bullying all the same.

BookWorm45 · 11/05/2021 20:52

This sounds really tough. Have you talked to your union rep as this seems to be bullying?

year5teacher · 11/05/2021 20:53

You need to speak to your uni provider. If your assigned tutor is useless I would try and speak to the course leader or someone - at my training she emailed us regularly so we had her email and I probably wouldn’t have hesitated to contact her in this situation. What you want is an email trail.

Sorry if I’ve missed it but what are you currently assessed as - good or RI? If they put you as RI at this point they have to provide targeted support to help you meet your targets and prove that they’re doing so.

You don’t need to be outstanding - it doesn’t mean anything anyway other than that you’re outstanding at doing paperwork. No one is an outstanding teacher at the end of training 😂 just get through with a pass and you’ve got the qualification. This isn’t uncommon; the other NQT at my work had a terrible experience with a similar mentor. One problem with the PGCE is that your experience is so dependent on the mentor you have. Mine was hit and miss.

year5teacher · 11/05/2021 20:55

Oh and I totally sympathise with the internet thing - at my second placement I had no internet access as the WiFi wouldn’t work on my laptop and the trust’s IT technician refused to do anything about it. No school laptops or computers available and my mentor fucked off at 3:45 and got in at 8:40 so I had no time to print anything at all - and then she’d get angry that I hadn’t printed anything before she got in. Like how the fuck was I meant to??? God I hated my PGCE towards the end of placement.

BathshebaKnickerStickers · 11/05/2021 20:56

I had a bully as my teacher for my 2nd PGCE placement and she was the only teacher of my subject in the school, so I couldn’t go to another teacher. She was also off sick for 50% of the time I was there. Ther whole placement would have been a joke if it wasn’t such a nightmare.

When I contacted my uni tutor I was told I was unprofessional for complaining about “a professional colleague “

And that’s the reason I’m not a teacher.

Merryoldgoat · 11/05/2021 20:56

It is 100% bullying and she is extremely accomplished at it.

oknowimscared · 11/05/2021 21:03

You don’t think you are being bullied, but it reads that way. “Having” to stay for 2 hours after school to make friends? You’re doing a stressful enough course without that sort of crap.
You need to go back to your tutor - and if he doesn’t reply / help then the head of the PGCE department. You need the support now, like right now. And you need to make the Uni aware that this isn’t a suitable school/department for placements. Doing a PGCE is hard enough without this sort of stuff. Do yourself and future students a favour and start complaining.

PuddingJacker · 12/05/2021 17:07

Update!
I went into work today and taught my lessons. Got to p.4 (the lesson my mentor was observing) and at the end she asked if I needed her to fill out a form. I explained that I had four other lessons today so there was no need. Then she says she thought that I'd done really well and she's really impressed. She then told me that she's been so busy and stressed recently that she feels like she's losing her mind - she said "I know we had a meeting yesterday but I can't remember anything we said at all". I'm not sure if that's her retracting what was said or genuinely not remembering.

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LolaSmiles · 12/05/2021 17:16

Until your update I was going to say as an ITT mentor I think you should speak to the school ITT lead or your university tutor as your mentor's behaviour has been awful.
Following your update, if she's been otherwise OK with you then whilst it doesn't excuse her recent unprofessional conduct, I would be inclined to move on and get through the placement because you've not got long left.

Some staff are close to, or at, breaking point with the current GCSE TAGS and other workload issues. She might be backtracking because she's realised she was out of order. If your university tutor isn't helpful then in your situation I'd question what would be gained by complaining as long as your mentor remains professional from now until until end of placement. If she starts to be awful again, raise it with someone more senior.

SandysMam · 12/05/2021 19:23

Re your update Op…maybe she’s on mumsnet and has seen your thread and the replies saying she is being a bully!! Sounds a bit of a back track to say she can hardly remember what she said!! Hopefully job done! Good luck with your teaching career!

PuddingJacker · 12/05/2021 19:30

@SandysMam

Re your update Op…maybe she’s on mumsnet and has seen your thread and the replies saying she is being a bully!! Sounds a bit of a back track to say she can hardly remember what she said!! Hopefully job done! Good luck with your teaching career!
Haha, maybe. She single and doesn't have children so it's unlikely (but not impossible).
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SandysMam · 12/05/2021 19:35

Loads of single childless people use mumsnet!!

TheFutureIs · 12/05/2021 19:47

Hopefully she's realised that she's being a pretty terrible mentor. If she goes back to her old ways just turn it back on her, "what would you do in that situation"
As for not having access to computers for planning that needs raising higher up in the school, there should be a trainee and NQT coordinator

superram · 12/05/2021 19:52

I wish you were my student. Mine is failing as completely disinterested, it’s painful to watch. Don’t get me started on sitting in the staff room taking up a computer but actually watching YouTube on their phone.....

CHISistoast · 13/05/2021 18:22

You did well for going in and I'm really glad it was a positive day.

LadyOfLittleLeisure · 14/05/2021 12:10

This sounds exactly like literally every mentor I had/heard of in my teacher training. I really feel for you OP. My mentor once whispered that I needed to absolutely ensure a certain two girls weren't sat together in a computer session, so when I asked them to move (and they inevitably kicked off) my mentor then said in front of the entire class they didn't have to do as I said. I mean, I had no chance with that class after that. What are the course leaders like? Do you have good pastoral support?

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