AIBU?
MN jury - AIBU about messy room?
TravellingSpoon · 11/05/2021 18:59
My sister has been staying with me since October last year. She didnt have a job at first but finally managed to find something and has been working for a couple of months. She pays me rent but below the market rate (dont know if that is relevant).
I wanted to air the house today so I opened all the windows.I went into her room and it was an abslute pigsty. Im talking piles of clothes on the floor, rubbish everywhere. You cannot see the floor at all for all the debris. There is plenty of storage so she is obviously just not bothered about putting things away. She works in a fast-food restaurant and her uniforms are all over the floor so it absolutely stinks of grease. She has an ensuite which is filthy too.
I have tesxt het asking her what the hell she is playing at, and she has replied and said its her room and its up to her what she does with it. My arguement is that its trampy, it stinks and she doesnt ever open the curtains. Its basement level and I dont want it to get fusty and horrid in there. TBH I want to tell her that if she wants to live like that she can live elsewhere. Just the idea that there is a room like this in my house makes me feel icky.
So, WIBU?
Am I being unreasonable?
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MrsTophamHat · 11/05/2021 19:03
YANBU. I think if it was just untidy, that would be up to her, but if it is smelly and not being aired regularly then she's potentially damaging the room if you can't then get rid of the smell.
Does she ever do any kind of cleaning in there? Vacuuming? Dusting? Clean sheets?
DrinkFeckArseBrick · 11/05/2021 19:55
Hi OP
I think as others have said messy is ok but when it's so bad that you cant actually get in to clean the dirt then that increases wear and tear and is your issue. Eg if there is always stuff over the floor so it can't be hoovered then the dirt will build up and eventually get ground into the carpet. If there is a load of stuff stored against the walls, air won't circulate and the walls are more likely to be damp (especially so in a basement against outside walls). I also wouldn't like her attitude, if you are changing her less than market rate, its quite a teenager ish thing to say
LittleOwl153 · 11/05/2021 20:05
I'd go further that you did. I'd say that if the room is not cleared and cleaned by Sunday she will need find alternative accommodation.
I would also say that if she cannot keep it clean and respect your home going forward she also needs to leave. If that's the case I'd give her a limited notice period.
SandysMam · 11/05/2021 20:08
Not the point of your thread but I would so love to tidy a room like this!! Super satisfying! If she complained about you going through her stuff I would tell her that if she lives in your house, she either keeps it clean herself or you will! But that’s just me, and I am weird 
Shehasadiamondinthesky · 12/05/2021 11:29
@TravellingSpoon
That is absolutely revolting, I would not have that in my home. Its incredibly disrespectful seeing as its your house.
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