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catwomanhatwoman · 11/05/2021 18:09

My 2 yo has been screaming for most of the afternoon. I woke her from her nap to collect her sibling from school, she screamed . She screamed while I dressed her, she fought me and screamed while I strapped her into the car, she screamed and screamed and screamed at the school gate for 10 mins, she screamed all the way home, she played and ate half her dinner and then spat her food everywhere and screamed and screamed until I let her get down from the table before her brother had finished eating. She then screamed while I got her shoes on, wrestled her into the car to take her sibling to an after school club, screamed all the way there and while I was trying to speak to the woman who runs the club about something important, she was fighting me and throwing herself around so much I thought I would drop her and she'd hurt herself, the woman was clearly annoyed, I was almost in tears.
She then screamed for 30 mins more while I ran an errand. Dh called in the middle of this, I was feeling stressed and moaned about DD and how the woman I was speaking to seemed annoyed, I felt she could've given me a break as I clearly was having a hard time. DH then said that she was probably more stressed by it than me and that I was being unfair to the poor woman as I have no idea what was going on in her life and that I should've walked away!
I was just having a vent, no big deal, I just wanted someone to moan at for a passing second and a bit of sympathy, as it was my DH pushed me over the edge and I've just spent a 10 min journey crying as as I drove home while dd screamed in the back.

Was I being unreasonable to just want my dh to give me a bit of a handhold? The tantruming is very full on at the moment and it's getting to the point that I dread leaving the house, every afternoon (after nursery) is a big struggle.

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DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 11/05/2021 18:48

As the owner of my third 2 year old and as a person with no patience with rude people that can clearly see im struggling - YANBU. At all.

Wynston · 11/05/2021 19:01

You have my sympathy.........it is brutal and I think you are doing amazing!!!
Hopefully tomorrow will be kinder to you.
If you lived anywhere near me I would be sharing my wine x

Wearywithteens · 11/05/2021 19:14

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Hankunamatata · 11/05/2021 19:19

Phone a friend. Much better listeners than husbands iv found. Toddlers are little monsters

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 12/05/2021 15:46

@Wearywithteens

I would’ve been annoyed having to try to carry on a meaningful conversation with someone wrestling with a screaming 2 year old. It’s no reflection on you - you sound like you’ve had an afternoon from hell. But other people are allowed to be annoyed in a difficult situation too. Your DH, like most men sitting down comfortably, without having the screaming torture experience, was just unhelpfully verbalising why he empathised with an annoyed stranger. Neither of you ABU.
What was she supposed to do? Chuck the two year old outside?

She was being unreasonable being annoyed - as if she had a choice!

Wearywithteens · 12/05/2021 19:54

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billy1966 · 12/05/2021 20:20

You poor thing.

Sounds so awful.

Exhausting, thankless and so frustrating.

Is your husband spending enough one on one with his children???

Because if my husband was dim enough as to start advocating for a stranger when I was wrestling with screaming toddlers...he'd be wise to sleep with one eye open...ffs🤬.

You poor, poor pet.

I hope you feel better soon, or at least get a break, like a walk with a friend or a coffee soon.

Flowers
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