to not want to go out tonight

[lucyellensmum]

I was supposed to be going out with some friends tonight, i havent seen them for ages, they are my old work pals and we are trying to keep in touch. But the thing is, i was supposed to do business stuff with DP last night, i really needs to be done by tomorrow, i had a migraine last night and we were both knackered. I need to sit down with him tonight, with a clear head, and work through it. Even if i didnt have to do all of this, i wouldnt feel like going, i dont drive and its awkward to get back and i have to rely on lifts, which im sure i can cadge from someone, but last time we went out we ended up not getting home til 1 and i was so totally knackered the next day. I feel shitty for letting my friends down but feel i need to put my family first. My DP is stressed to the eyeballs due to financial worries and i dont think i should add to it by swanning off for an expensive meal out with the girls.

If a friend explained that to me i would understand completely.

Not YANBU - just let them know by text and hope they don't bombard you with reasons why you absolutely must go. Fish and chips as treat for you and DP?

I can sympathise on the subject of money worries. If it was me I'd phone and explain you haven't been feeling 100% nad you have some v importnant stuff that needs sorting. They may be a little disappointed but I'm sure they'll understand. Why not suggest another meeting soon?

i have let them know, its fine. I do feel bad but my family comes first, end of story. I will hopefully catch up with my friends soon

This happened to me recently - have you thought about arranging something else with your friends like afternoon tea or coffee? It's a bit cheaper and takes up less time.