Nursury

[Stevie1234]

Hi, I'm new to mumsnet, I was hoping someone could give me some advice, my 2 year old started nursery on the 22nd of april he did 1 hour and it wasnt a great hour from what the nursery staff told me so he did another hour the following day and still wasnt great, after hes 3rd day he started to settle in and he only cried for about 5mins when I left, so a week later they said he can stay for 1 and half hours which he started that today and he was perfectly fine, hes suppose to be doing whole days 3 days a week but they just want to stick to the hour and half even tho hes fine, for me it just doesnt make sense why they wont keep him longer my other 2 children both go to the same nursury and there both fine never had any problems, I just feel like theres more to it why they dont want him for the whole day or even half a day

3 dc all in nursery?

Presume these were his settling in session? I would expect a week, possible 2 weeks of this then straight into the full days you want him in. Cant see the point in dragging it out.

I'd just say you want him in properly from a date you feel appropriate. I dont think it helps doing the odd hour here and there

Yeah 3 of mine all in nursery my oldest is going school this september

it is quite normal to have 1 or 2 weeks of settling in sessions that are much shorter in time than they would usually be there for.

Well the Thursday was the settling in sesstion and the friday was suppose to be half day but they said just 1 hour and I agreed, this is hes 3rd week and they havnt even stated when he will be in for a full day and I'm not exactly confident to state I think he should be in for the whole day like he should be, they just said stick to the hour and half and we will go from there

they just said stick to the hour and half and we will go from there

I'm confused as to why you didn't then ask them why he wasn't doing full or even half days when they said this? Surley that's the perfect time to question what is happening and why they don't think he should be there all day?

I think you need a frank conversation.

"So he's had a few settling in days, he's settled, I need him to move to full days now as I'm putting him in nursery because I need childcare. Am I ok to leave him all day tomorrow?"

Are they charging you for full time? Reckon they've overbooked?

When do you start to pay for a full day/half day?

Once you're paying (we didn't pay for settling in sessions though some places might) you have every right to say that from this date you will be leaving him for his full hours.

Dis you agreed a start date when you originally signed him up for the nursery?

What days are you paying for the full day from? Because presumably from that point it’s not up to them.

Hes start date was suppose to be the 27th of april, and I did question them why hes not doing full day and they said we dont want to shock him into it and we want him to leave happy

@Stevie1234

Hes start date was suppose to be the 27th of april, and I did question them why hes not doing full day and they said we dont want to shock him into it and we want him to leave happy

Have you spoken to them again since. That just seems like such a bizarre answer. In most cases it's actually easier on the child to chuck them in at the deep end in these situations rather than drag it out and prolonge the process.

I dont pay for it, its funded, if just spoke to my health visitor and she doesnt agree with what they are doing, shes going to phone them and see of theu are being truthful with how hes settling in, so hopefully I will get some answers soon

What length of sessions are you paying for?

I'd be saying to them that he's booked for full days from x date, so he will be here for the full day from then as you need your childcare as booked for work/whatever. They can't insist he's only at nursery for an hour here and there if you are paying for a place!

Yeah your absalutly correct in what I have said but for me it's not that easy, I feel like because he is funded I have no right to question them, I'm probably stupid for thinking,my anxiety doeant help

Yeah I spoke to her today and she said the same thing, we will just stick to the hour and half and see what happens, I just find it hard to be upfront about it as hes being funded

Try not to let your anxiety get in the way, easier said thelan done I know. Think of it this way no amount of 1 hour sessions will actually prepare him for being there all day. I'd argue that the longer he only does an hour then it's much more likely he will struggle when this changes to full days as he will be used to only going for such a short amount of time.

You say no, we will not stick to the 1.5 hours, you will take him for the hours you are being paid to. Now.

Are you free to collect him at any point during the session? If so tell them you want him to try the full session but they can call you if he gets distressed.

Do you remember how much funding you have signed for? If it's for the full sessions and they still only agree to anything less then remind them what they are claiming and if it doesn't change contact your local authority and tell them about it.

@Stevie1234

Yeah I spoke to her today and she said the same thing, we will just stick to the hour and half and see what happens, I just find it hard to be upfront about it as hes being funded

You need to be more direct

What is it were waiting for? He is funded for 8-6, that is what I want him in. If you aren't willing to accommodate that or there's an issue with you taking him, please explain. Otherwise I need him in full time tomorrow