Sad and low

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I’m about to turn 40 years old. I think I don’t want a child but it makes me sad. I never thought we’d not have children but that feeling just isn’t there. DH doesn’t want.

Why is there a sadness though? My mood almost feels low because of it. How do I get over this?

40 isn't too late to change your life should you wish to op. My exh ruined my 40th birthday. He was an exh before I was 41. I met my now dh and we have a dc together.

If you're sure you don't want children maybe you just feel it's expected of you to have children? Or maybe you worry you'll feel differently in few years? Or it's a fear of missing out.
Even without children you're as much a family as anyone else. I know plenty of childless by choice and very happy marriages. There are a lot of advantages of not having children.
But if you're struggling to cope talk to someone, for example your GP can help.

Thanks. Yes, I’m speaking to a counsellor about it. Kinda seems extreme but think it’s helpful.

My marriage is very good. Just this child debate hanging over me. Which is caused by my age! If was turning 36 or something I don’t think I’d be in turmoil.