To be disgusted with myself and my appearance

[Kitkat199]

2019 i lost 6 stone
2020 till now I've put 5 back on
I hate how I look, its dragging my mood down

I want to cut myself off from everyone, I'm changing outfits 5 times before i leave home, and even then I hate my appearance

I just don't know what to do

This is me. I lost 3.5stone back in 2019 and out 2.5 back on.
I know I need to crack on, but can’t start.

You've done it once you can do it again. Last year was something few people coped with well. I have gained a lot of weight for the first time in my life. A lot of people will relate to you. When you are ready to, lose it again and focus on sustainability. Try hypnotherapy or counselling to help the weight lost stick. Make sure you are making long term changes else it will all come back next time you go through a stressful situation.

Don't be too hard on yourself, it really has been something else and we have had nothing to do except sit around eating, unless you are highly self motivated which few people are.

Take small steps. Start by improving your diet but by bit. Start eating healthier, drinking water, cutting out crisps and cakes.

Go for walks. Doesn’t have to be long. Half an hour or so. It’s good for your mental health to get fresh air, as well as physical.

Set yourself small challenges.

Stop hating yourself. Being disgusted is not going to spur you on. Speak nicely about yourself and to yourself.

Losing weight is hard but it's only weight. You are not a bad person.

You are beautiful. You can do this. One day at a time.

I'm really not x

2020 to now your body just got you through a pandemic. Please don't be harsh on it. We've all been through a lot and over eating has been a coping mechanism for millions and millions of people.
I've lost and regained a similar amount, the last stone of it in lockdown. A few months ago something finally clicked in my head and I've started losing it again but it's still a bit hit and miss. It sounds like you're at a point where you want to make a change? Start to make some small changes and keep mentally high giving yourself for every step in the right direction. Just try to be mates with your body as you do it - you're in this together!

Do what you did in 2019

You did it before, so doing it again will be easier

If you did it once you can do it again. Don't look up at the mountain, just keep taking steps.

I was really happy with my physique two years ago and got a bit plumper again when starting a new job. I was just getting back into it when covid struck and knocked me back down again with all the gym closures.

I was dreading it for months but I'm now four sessions in and definitely back on the wagon.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Life is too short for regrets. When I put weight on I've enjoyed the treats and then it's time to reign it in and the weight comes off again
Life is too short, just start clean eating again and put the negativity out of your mind.

What’s the reason for the weight gain? You need to address that first otherwise you’ll keep going round in vicious circles

@topwings

Stop hating yourself. Being disgusted is not going to spur you on. Speak nicely about yourself and to yourself.

Losing weight is hard but it's only weight. You are not a bad person.

This in spades.

Let's be honest here, not many people have had a good 18 months, have they? There's plenty of people who have been put on weight.

Buy some clothes that fit you know. Then do what you did in 2019.

How did you lose the initial weight? My sister’s weight is up and down but she gets it down it such an unhealthy way, it is just never sustainable. Have a look at what you did in 2019 first of all.

Don’t wait to buy nice clothes. Buy some really good shaping underwear now and then go and buy some new clothes in the right size. Think about what will make the most of how you you look now. Only put clothes that make you feel the best you can in your wardrobe and make sure you put some makeup on and do your hair before you get dressed every morning. Go and get your nails done. If you feel better about yourself to start you are more likely to find the motivation to lose weight. Also start walking in the evening whilst you listen to your favourite pod cast.

Don't beat yourself up, it's really hard.
The harsh reality is 95% of people will regain all the weight they lost.
Start keeping a food diary, identify the low hanging fruit and just make a start.

There are disgusting people in the world. Really. You are NOT one of them. I agree with pps. You ARE beautiful. Be kind and do it for yourself, small changes. Courage.

Try not to dread the thought of losing weight. Try and remember how amazing you felt last time when you lost the weight and had more energy / felt healthier etc. It might feel like you have a long way to go but once you start and create new habits and the weight starts coming off you will feel fabulous! You can do it!

Did you maybe lose the weight too fast so that your diet was unsustainable? Could you try something like 'noom' (although quite expensive) or second nature that focuses on lifestyle changes which you'll keep up.

Although you also need to give yourself a break. You've lost a stone which is great. f you'vve put 5 stone back on quickly it will come off fairly quickly too. There's no way others see you as negatively as you see yourself.

Op don't be so hard on yourself.

You need to read Why We Eat (too much) by Dr Andrew Jenkinson. It addresses why we lose weight and regain it, what modern food and lifestyle is doing to our hormones and body and how we can change our set point. It will help you understand and help you manage your weight in the future.

It's not technically a diet book so don't expect to have a list of allowed foods etc, but it will help you lose weight and more importantly keep it off.

16: 8 fasting worked for ne

Last week we were talking about someone we knew at work, trying to describe her to another colleague who couldn’t remember her. She asked me to describe this colleague to jog her memory.

Without thinking I said ‘she’s about 30, around 5ft6, stunningly beautiful, overweight, long dark hair, olive skin, blue eyes’.

Then I noticed my colleague is also overweight. She looked a bit shocked that I’d mentioned overweight in the same sentence as stunningly beautiful. But it’s true people can be stunning and overweight. I should have phrased it better but I said it the same way as I’d say underweight or slim.

Overweight isn’t always negative OP.