AIBU to be petrified of scarring after a D&C/ERPC?

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Content warning here: pregnancy loss

I know I'm not fully in my right mind here i.e. with grieving this loss but I need to know if I'm being an utter basket case.

I had a D&C (aka ERPC) in February for an early pregnancy loss. Which was hard enough as you all know who have been through it. Since then my periods have been incredibly lighter. I am talking (sorry: TMI) start and stop blood (like nothing on the pad when I get up day 2-3 of my period which is unusual), tiny clots, only red when wiping. I think I changed one super tampon and otherwise got away with a liner. Could have gone all day if not for sanitary purposes.

Went back to the doctor and was fobbed off with excuses after asking about scarring aka Asherman's syndrome and quoted "it's so rare" but I can't stop thinking that this is perhaps what's going on with me? To the point where it's all I think of all day, every day. I have an appointment with a new provider next week as this one didn't seem to be taking me seriously.

I haven't been able to find anything about lighter periods after a D&C, most women say they've gone on to have normal periods back again and I'm petrified. I feel like there's no information out there and I've got nobody to talk with.

Tell me if I need to be freaking out or if I should calm the F down? I just want a bub so badly that it's killing me inside. Haven't been able to conceive for 4 months now following the procedure when I fell twice the first time trying, so it's getting into my head.

Mostly just trying to bump for you, OP

I'm sorry, I don't have any experience with D&Cs but try not to put too much store by having conceived first time before - of my two pregnancies the second was the one that happened straight away, while still breastfeeding the older child, getting really close to an age where fertility plummets, and having just recovered from a really bad bout of COVID (I was almost hospitalised) that seriously messed up my menstrual cycle. Go figure! Remember each cycle is only one chance so it's not unusual for it to take a few months, although I appreciate it may feel like that if it's not been your personal experience before.

I hope someone more helpful will be along soon.

My period changed for a bit after the D&C I had but I assumed it was hormones which I think is probably more likely?

To reassure you I had a D&C in March and got pregnant with a successful pregnancy in September.

It's hard not to completely overthink everything but try not to worry x

I’ve had 3 ERPC’s now. One after childbirth for retained placenta and two for missed miscarriages. I went on to have two healthy babies after if that helps.

My periods were honestly all over the shop after my missed miscarriages. It’s totally normal, your hormones need to rebalance.

I had an ERPC (I believe they are slightly different from D&C) after an MMC. I don’t remember my periods being different but I believe it did take some time to heal as for each cycle afterwards I had a chemical pregnancy (x 3), however I conceived a sticky one on the 4th cycle/month 6. It’s tough OP, my emotions during this time were more all over the place than with the MC good luck x

I remember things being strange for a few months after erpc. I actually had positive tests for six weeks after. It just took the hormones a while to settle. I had a healthy pregnancy about seven months after the procedure.

When I was in my 20s I had a D&C to try and find the cause of my insanely heavy periods. My gynae at the time said it often temporarily reduced bleeding and used to be used as a treatment for heavy periods, but is not funded anymore. Actually, it worked for about 6 months until my uterine lining built up to normal levels and the horrific endo pain returned.

I should add despite horrible endometriosis I have somehow had two healthy pregnancies. After which my endometriosis subsided each time for around 6 months. Sending you best wishes.

I didn’t have a d&c with my second mc as I went medical route, but my body ended up not letting go so ended up with a similar procedure but not quite. After each of mine (I had 3 before my son) my cycles went all over the shop in terms of heaviness - as in barely anything over a few days to very short like one day bleeding.
I will say when I had the procedure it effected me more than either the preceding and following loss that came away without any intervention. I felt an inner panic about issues in my body that I couldn’t see. Including about scarring. I hope you have someone in real life who supports you because it was an incredibly lonely time for me even with two fantastic (husband and sister) understanding people.
Take care of yourself x

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I didn’t have a D+C but wanted to share to show sometimes our bodies do really weird stuff for no apparently reason! I had a MMC this time last year, I was almost 12 weeks but baby measured only 7, no heartbeat. I started bleeding naturally the day after the scan, it was almost like mini labour for me and I was shocked considering how early it was. Full on contraction type feelings for a few hours before I began bleeding very heavily. I went to hospital as I literally couldn’t leave the bathroom I was bleeding so heavily, the doctor there did a manual examination with a speculum and was able to remove the pregnancy remains like that while I was awake, the bleeding slowed down significantly after he did this.

I then went on to bleed for a total of 72 days. Not heavily, some days barely more than spotting and others period like bleeding. I had two ultrasounds to rule out retained product as well as numerous blood tests to try and figure out wtf was going on. I then had a GP who wanted to prescribe something to try and stop the bleeding entirely, followed by something else to bring on the bleeding. Thankfully I stopped bleeding a couple of days before the prescription came through and was told to hold off taking the meds. I then had what I assume was my period 40 something days after I stopped bleeding, and 40ish day regular cycles from that point on.

There was absolutely no logical reason why I bled so weirdly, all the doctors said I shouldn’t, EPU said it should have stopped after 2 weeks, google was no help. I was convinced I had something really really wrong but tests all came back normal and still now we have no idea wtf my body was doing.

7 months after the miscarriage I fell pregnant again and am now 23 weeks.

Basically, of course get yourself checked out if you’re worried, demand tests etc to rule out issues but sometimes I think a miscarriage can just totally whack us out for some reason and it takes a little while for our bodies to figure it out.

Really hope it all works out well for you soon

Sorry you're going through this OP.
I had 2 d&c for first mmc (they didn't get it all first time) and periods came back incredibly light in the March. Went to Gp after few cycles who basically said same as yours and to monitor it for 6 months and go back if the same. I really didn't want to hang around (and wait fir any potential scarring to get worse) so went to a private doctor who specialises in Ashermans. Had internal scan where he said could potentially see something so had a hcg (where they put dye through tubes to check for scarring) and was luckily all clear. I also conceived my only successful pregnancy to date that month. I saw Dr Adrian Lower in Harley St and if finances allow I would recommend it to put your mind at rest. Otherwise definitely try to see another GP and keep detailed notes of your periods.
Wishing you all the best, it was a few years ago for me but I still remember how all consuming the worry was.

I've had six miscarriages (all surgically managed) and only got Asherman's after the last one. It was horrendous.
I didn't have any bleeding at all though and they didn't believe me or do anything until I was hospitalised for pain management and they put in a copper coil, which I then had put after around 6 months. It sorted it.

Sorry, my point was, I only got very ill after my 6th. Unless you have a really crappy doctor doing your d&c the chances are still low. Also unless you are in excruciating pain, then it's also unlikely. Mine put my life on hold for months.