To be offended?

[RainbowBriteUk]

I have weird eyebrows. They are thick near the middle of my head but really go much barer towards the ends. I sometimes use eyebrow pencils but i'm not the best at applying it and don't have the patience. Today, I saw new man who I have been dating a few months or so and had a full face of makeup apart from the eyebrows. He asked why I shaved them. I told him I didn't and he refused to believe me at first. I told him they were like that naturally and just weird but I did feel offended he brought it up. He has yellowish teeth but I didn't bring that up and I wouldn't. Usually I would kick off about something like this but I was trying my best to be nice today and didn't want to sour the otherwise lovely day out.

I do think there may be some mild autistic traits in him possibly but I have never discussed this with him.

So, AIBU to be pissed off by his comments?

Have you always had weird eyebrows? Losing the outer third of your eyebrows is a symptom of hypothyroidism.
Yanbu. People who make personal comments are annoying.

Oh! I didn't know it was a sign of hypothyroidism. All my adult life they've thinned out at the ends. The hair is really fair there too so doesn't show up too well.

But if you're confident that he's autistic and that's why he said it, why would you need to start a thread asking if you should have been offended?
The thread title could as well have been "Should I be offended by autistic people's comments?"

I don't have any natural eyebrows. I draw them on with liquid eyeliner. If questioned I deflect it back. That's how you (and I look), you didn't invite criticism. It's no ones business but your own.

If you’ve been dating a few months, why is this the first time he’s seen your eyebrows?

What are your qualifications that you can diagnose on on a couple of meetings in social situations?

Perhaps MN need to create an autistic emoji that people can deploy when they wish to explain poor/rude/abusive behaviour as probably caused by autism?

It’s beyond a joke but autism-bashing is completely tolerated by MN and it’s sickening.

Why would this make you kick off? It was rude (or potentially understandable if he does have autism as according to you), but it’s not worth getting angry over.

I think long term, if he becomes your boyfriend/partner he will eventually see yo without makeup on. If he’s already picking at your appearance and bringing your confidence down now, what will he do when he sees you without any makeup at all? It just isn’t going to work out.

I also switched off after the comment about him possibly being autistic. We don't go around being uncontrollably rude, I manage not to insult people with little to no effort. 🤷‍♀️ What's rude, among other things, is jumping to the conclusion that he's probably autistic after saying something you found insulting.

I have absolutely zero eyebrows. Plucked them all off 15 years ago and they never grew back.

I was once planning on going to the gym at lunchtime so didn’t wear make up or my usual drawn on eyebrows into work. One of the guys in my office genuinely didn’t recognise me and asked who the girl sitting at my desk was. When he realised it was actually me, he asked what had happened to my eyebrows. I’m not precious about it, it was my own stupid fault for plucking them off.

I think you’re making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be.

No need to be twatty to OP just because she said he may have ‘mild autistic traits’. I think she gets the message now.

OP, getting back to your OP rather than the bandwagon everyone has jumped on, YANBU to be offended.

Next time he makes a personal remark, tell him that you don’t like it and can he not do it again. If he still does it, then ditch him.

Maybe he was actually curious OP we all have some flaws surely. If his are yellow teeth its obvious that it would b really rude to ask why his teeth yellow. If he had seen u with penciled in eyebrows prior and suddenly theyr not penciled in then he will notice? Its not rude. He was just curious. Maybe if when he first met u and said whats wrong with ur brows? Thatd b slightly rude as he would know thats ur natural brow.