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How to phrase it...

3 replies

WellLarDeDar · 09/05/2021 13:29

I work as a contractor, I'm not unhappy, but applied for a permanent job in a different company a while ago (had nothing to lose and permanent is more secure than contract), I didn't get it but I was the 'first runner up'. I hadn't told anyone from my current work that I was applying so you can imagine my surprise when a team mate knew all about my application from chatting to someone else in my company. Somehow a student in my company knows what I applied for and how I did in my interview etc and apparently can't keep their mouth shut either. It was a bit awkward and while I'm not raging I do feel a bit uncomfortable with the lack of discretion, I'm not sure there's any privacy legislation preventing this company from discussing applications but I don't think it's great to do that, especially with a student. I also don't really want that information reaching senior management through gossip and them getting the wrong idea and thinking I'm don't want to be there!

Fast forward a few weeks and my current company has extended my contract and the other company has contacted me asking if I'd be interested in a new position they have coming up without giving any actual details of the position.

On one hand I am of course interested to hear what they'd offer but on the other hand I am really put off by the lack of discretion and don't particularly want a repeat of last time but have no idea how to say that to them without sounding like a nob.

AIBU to be a bit put off by it? Also how or even would you address it when responding to them about another opportunity?

OP posts:
3scape · 09/05/2021 13:38

Wow. That's very conflicting. Could you discuss with this student how on earth they know what should be quite confidential.

WellLarDeDar · 09/05/2021 13:48

@3scape

Wow. That's very conflicting. Could you discuss with this student how on earth they know what should be quite confidential.
Tell me about it. From what I have been able to ascertain is that this student did a placement at the other company and knows some of the people who work there who have shared the information with them. I haven't approached the student as they have a reputation for being difficult and I don't want it to turn it into a drama and I've observed (from afar) some unusual behaviour from them in the past. :/
OP posts:
8bitgame · 09/05/2021 13:49

I would say

"Thank you for getting in touch and I am very interested in the details of this further opportunity. Would you be able to provide assurance that on this occasion any application will be treated as confidential as unfortunately I am aware that my previous application was discussed and shared with my current employer. Whilst this has not caused any issues and I am sure is not your usual practice I would appreciate confirmation of the confidentiality of our discussion".

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