AIBU to change plans

[HogwartsForever11]

Hi just want to get another opinion on this as ‘D’P told me to fuck off over this and slept on the sofa last night.

We have booked an indoor meal in a couple of weeks when this is allowed (UK), just the two of us. We have just been invited to a small BBQ for the same day by my aunt and uncle, as more people will be able to gather outside then.
I suggested to DP that we go to the BBQ and rearrange our meal for the weekend after, but he says we can’t because the plan has already been made. I see what he means but it’s only the 2 of us going so we wouldn’t be messing anyone around and I’ve checked that the restaurant has availability the week after, which it does.
AIBU?

I don't think you're BU as such, but he was probably looking forward to a meal out just the two of you. I get why you'd want to go to the bbq but I can also see why he's disappointed. His reaction is a bit ott though!

Does he have a history of complete over reactions? I wouldn’t think anything of changing plans in that situation.

Did you sound disappointed when you told him of this change of plans? He was probably looking forward to going out just the two of you and maybe he sees seeing your family more as a treat for you and a chore for him. Bit of an over reaction though.

I can understand why he is disappointed. If he isn't an outdoorsy sort of person he's probably sick of the whole six people in a garden thing.

Sleeping on the sofa is a bit over the top. Are you the sociable one? Does he prefer doing things just the two of you?

Surely you w just had the last entire year eating meals "just the two of you?"
I can see why you don't want to miss the chance of socialising more widely.
He is being ridiculous. Yes, the plan is made, but it can very easily be changed so that you can do both things.

What’s the back story? Does he hate your family??

This reaction is very OTT. Adults should be capable of managing disappointment better than this.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to want to swap weekends. I don’t think he’s being unreasonable to keep the booking. I do think his reaction was totally unreasonable and over the top.

I don’t think either of you are unreasonable in your opinions.
Sleeping on the sofa seems a massive overreaction though, did talking about this turn into a big row?

Bit dramatic of him but I’m assuming he doesn’t like your family much?

Are you married OP? If not, maybe he was going to propose !

On the basis we haven't been able to have indoor meals in a restaurant for months, I suspect it's taken on more significance that it might otherwise do.

It was clearly something he was looking forward to and he doesn't want to move it. I'd say that normally the first made plan should take precedence over others, and the fact it's with your partner shouldn't make it less important.

Fine to ask, but equally fine for him not to want to.

His reaction seems totally disproportionate. Is that common for him? Most people could easily resolve a dispute like this without resorting to swearing and sleeping on the sofa.