My dad calling me fat

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Am sick to the back teeth of my dad telling me I’m overweight, I know Im overweight, it’s fuck all to do with him, it’s not said in a kind way like he’s worried about my health and it’s all in front of my dd who’s 5.

I assume you've already told him that this is hurting you and asked him to stop?

Tell him if he does it again you won't be seeing him again. And that you would rather be fat than be shit father who humiliates and upsets his daughter and refuses to stop.

Brilliant response. And no I’ve not told him he’s upsetting me, he wouldn’t care anyway. I absolutely would love to never see him again but what about my mum? She doesn’t deserve any of this

Does your DM call him out on it? If she wants to let something like this lie, then maybe she has to live with the consequences.

What they said ^
I have no time for this sort of nonsense from parents

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Does your DM call him out on it? If she wants to let something like this lie, then maybe she has to live with the consequences.

No sadly she doesn’t, she’s lived with this twat for 40+ years, I could write a book on his vile behaviour.

I'd say "I'm aware I'm overweight thank you, and I can lose the weight when I choose to. But you'll never lose your awful personality"

I'd tell your mum you will only see her without your dad. This could set your DD up for a lifetime of eating disorders. He sounds like a nasty bastard

My dad still calls me fat or made comments about what I ate in a joking way and I ended up with an eating disorder. I was very slim and never actually fat!

Please protect your DD from this!

Talk to your mum first and warn her what's coming and why (it upsets you, worries over DD picking up on it etc). Then next time he does it pull him up on it and tell him you're not putting up with it anymore. If he kicks off, that's his choice and his problem.

I’ve made up my mind, my dd is not going near him again. I’ve never been in a relationship, if a man has every been nice to me I’ve thought he had something wrong with him due to the fact that he has always been horrible to me and my mother. It’s over now

Just tell him that unless you are sat up on top of him , then your weight is none of his business

I can relate OP, l once walked into a pub and someone shouted 'hello fatty' everyone turned around to look. It was my Dad, never forgave him for it.
My Mum is the same, I am low contact now just by phone but even last week she rang and asked if I've put on lockdown weight.
Ironically I had a childhood of being punished for not finishing what was on my plate, which lead me to not knowing when I was full, then to purging for several years.
I think the only way is to have your Mum visit you and let her know why. You Dad needs to be taken out of the equation for you and your daughters sake.

Yes, my dad always called me fat face when I was a kid. I wasn’t a fat child at all, just had a round face.
He must suffer with distorted body imagine, he’s 9 stone wringing wet and thinks he’s mister muscles.

He sounds horrible and your mum is hopeless for not challenging him. If a friend spoke to you this way you would drop them like a stone. Why should family members think they can talk to you like crap with no consequences? Keep this nasty commentary away from your little girl - she doesn’t need to hear this poison (and neither do you )

I have tried but can never forget after years of not seeing my dad, driving up with my mum and big brother so excited I could burst and the very 1st thing he said was "cooor you've got fat" I dont know how i didn't cry i was so embarrassed 😢 no one pulled him up, not my mum or his misses i was 9.
He was quite a shit Dad in many ways and I can see that now at 34.
Sorry your dad is being so cruel you need to speak to him. Still visit your mum and completely ignore him or meet mum somewhere for a coffee x