To want to stop worrying about everything

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I am a bit of a worrier! It seems to have got worse in my mid life state of 48 due to peri meno sleep issues!

Woke up at 3 and worked my way through worrying about:

• my health
• money
• kids friendships
• my friendships
• my relationship
• my job

And now I am exhausted and to what end. I had a small epiphany when I realised that I need to try to stop this overthinking, I will go mad otherwise & it’s basically all in my head!

Aibu? I do try and meditate to get me out of my head a bit but it’s definitely worse with hormones/mid life etc.

Anyone got any suggestions?

Lack of certain vitamins can affect your mental health as well with overthinking as a result.

Sorry no suggestions but I'm in exactly the same boat and could have written your post. 💐 You're not alone if it helps xx

I take duloxetine and it tithed my anxiety tap off.

Totally understand this and peri menopause is making me extremely anxious. I'm fine on the 3 weeks of HRT but the week off sends me back to near breakdown. The two things that help me are keeping a book and writing things down and seeing a counselor online which has been really helpful.

I feel like i have lost my ability to relax into my life if that makes sense?

This is very common, CBT can help a lot

I experience this and am currently going through the perimenopause.

I find listening to a comfort show on my phone switches me off and helps me sleep. I bought some soft night ear phones and upped the data limit on my contract. Works really well for me.

Same here 54.I have GAD.Generalised anxiety disorder.Currently having CBT as I'm badly depressed to.
Hrt has changed my life.I live and work with all men who don't seem to worry or care about things as much,problems,housework,cleanliness.I seem to shoulder that burden.😓

This is me too of late. I didn't know if it were being mid forties or the effects of life getting busier after lockdown. Either way, I feel horribly anxious and tense most of the time.

I'm trying to simplify my life a bit to ease the pressure. I take on too much and it was leaving zero relaxation time. Easier said than done.

What I really need is to sit by a pool for a week..

Lifting weights helps me get rid of excess energy which causes anxious thoughts. I sleep like a log!

I am a massive worrier, another vote for CBT. It stops you going down the rabbit hole!

Pharmacist recommended magnesium tablets for me for my tension in neck and jaw. They relax muscles and gave me the deepest sleep I've had for years last week and I'm sure have reduced some anxiety for me. Take one with your evening meal.

Do you take a daily walk and drink lots of water?
Also deep breathing in the car or wherever. Also sell talk - is this my job to worry about xyz? Will I choose to worry about this or put it back where it belongs? These statements can sometimes help. You really don't have to worry about things, but you sometimes need to hear the words being said to you. TED talks on anxiety can also help, the app is free to download.

*self talk - not sell talk

I had bad anxiety and I started taking magnesium and I think it's really helped. But I'm only on it less that two weeks.

I have been this way my whole life. As a few other posters mentioned, cbt and regular exercise have both helped me to manage it a little better.

This was me at age 47
Check out HRT it will change your life

I was like this for years, things that helped me were a mix of CBT and counselling, and taking up lots of little low key hobbies that keep me occupied - nothing expensive or big, just things like writing and knitting that can I can distract myself with if I’m spiralling. It’s only now that I don’t worry like I used to that I realise how much it had taken over and was ruining my life - if you’ve always been like that it can feel like nothing can change it, but it is possible!

I feel exactly the same. Could anyone tell me what strength of Magnesium they take and how many per day etc.?

I take something from the naked pharmacy to help sleep (saffron and magnesium). It helps!

Can writing your problems down help. Then you can write lists of what you control.

Others have suggested things that have helped them too, I'd explore them all and work out what works best for you.

I could have written this post - watching with interest. It's exhausting isn't it x

I'm looking forward to the Davina documentary on the debilitating effects of the perimenopause. High time someone said it out loud.

The secret for me was to get a deep, uninterrupted sleep every night. I managed to get my doctor to prescribe me 25mg of Seroquel to take before bed because I was starting to get quite unwell. It's actually an anti-psychotic medicine but at the lowest dose it just makes you sleep. Unlike benzos and Z drugs (which I did try but found they didnt really work) it doesn't have addictive properties, I can miss a night and still sleep really deeply because it's now a habit to sleep all night.

I'm certainly not recommending that you start drugging yourself but it's changed my life. No more sweating and panicking at 3am, watching the clock get later and later and being miserable the next day. Who knows, it's maybe just cheered me up in general. I feel very present during the day.

My sympathies, there is nothing like the desperation one can feel when not sleeping and worrying.