Try and keep it as short as I can. Our department since last year has worked from home. I’m very good friends with a female colleague named Faye and also fairly friendly with a male colleague Mark.
Me and Faye would meet up once a week (when restrictions lifted) and sometimes Mark would join us - inviting himself through Faye as it was always me who had arranged it. Mark clearly fancies Faye and has sent suggestive messages to her - both these people have long term partners. Faye has stated that she’s shut down the messages each time and not interested in him that way. Could be lying but obviously I can only go on what she says.
Late last year Mark tried to get me into trouble over something very minor at work (think changing a drop down menu) by directly emailing my manager to complain about me. Thought was very petty when he could have just come to me over something so small. When confronted he was very passive aggressive and clearly enjoyed that it had got to me. We have not spoken since.
Now we are allowed to meet up again - me and Faye have met for dinner. Mark found out and was apparently very put out that he wasn’t invited and suggested to Faye she should smooth things over with me so that he’s invited next time but he would under no circumstances apologise to me.
I’ve stated in no uncertain terms that I’m not interested as makes no difference to me if he’s no longer in my life or not. I was then told by Faye that we are both as stubborn as each other.
Aibu to think I’m not being stubborn when I’m genuinely not interested in seeing this man (I’m actively looking for a new job too) and blatantly just being used by him (or maybe both) in order to be the cover up for them to see each other. As I highly doubt either of their partners would be ok with just them two meeting up for dinner - but with a third person there it’s much less obvious.