To not go to colleagues wedding party?
Lonelyflower80 · 08/05/2021 20:40
A colleague has invited all our small team to their wedding night party. Due to remote working during COVID, I've never met them face-to-face. Other team mates were friends with this person before they joined our team, and socialise outside of work, so I'd imagine they're all going.
I appreciate the invite and maybe I was just invited out of politeness, rather than them actually wanting me to go, but I'm worried I would offend them saying no.
AIBU / rude not to go?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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MadMadMadamMim · 08/05/2021 20:42
You send a polite message saying, That's terribly kind of you, but I'm afraid we already have plans for that night. I do hope you have a lovely time.
And if you feel the need (and will meet them in the future) send a small gift.
I'd feel massively awkward meeting someone for the first time at their wedding. I suspect it is politeness that has made them include you.
Lonelyflower80 · 08/05/2021 20:54
Thanks for the replies everyone. The reason I dont want to go is the hassle of getting a baby sitter, taxi etc. to a wedding of strangers, basically.
I'm sure they'll have lots of family and close friends and probably not much time to meet me properly anyway. I'm not the type of person who enjoys parties anyway. I prefer being at home with my children and netflix
I just feel awkward and rude saying I'm not going
Annetisa17 · 09/05/2021 10:16
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