Child almost choked.

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So this morning I was in the kitchen making some sausage sandwiches. Left our 22 month old in the living room with her dad. I've came in and she's sitting on his lap with the bottle top off our child farm hair detangler spray in her mouth, flat side pointing out, I've rushed over grabbed it out and sat her down and said NO, picking the lid up saying no and then placing it in the bin in the kitchen.

Obviously furious at her dad for not watching her, the lid was on the bottle which is always on the back of the TV until so she's clearly managed to get the lid off and he's not watched her at all. I have gone very pissy at him but have not mentioned it. I told my mum and she's said I'm being a little OTT and this happens to every parent somewhere along the line.

But this is the first time something like this has happened and honestly I'm still shook up about it myself. If I'd of been 10 seconds later she could've swallowed it and choked on it.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable to be pissy at him? or am I in the right for being pissed off he's not watched her get the lid off and put it in her mouth. She was sitting on his lap when I came in so clearly he's picked her up whilst she's holding the lid. The excuse being " it's a clear lid so I didn't see it "

Nah I’d be pissed too op.
More so she’s on his knee.

We've only moved in together two weeks ago aswell, took us ages to get on the property ladder especially with covid, never once has anything like this happened with me just watching over her. It's the fact she was on his lap!!! He was on his phone when I walked in which just fucked me off more

You might be being a little bit ott. He had something he shouldn't in his mouth and you took it out. That's not nearly choking. My 22 month old always seems to get his hands on random things, especially as I have an older daughter who likes tiny toys. I wouldn't be too annoyed with your dh it was just a mistake.

I’d feel exactly the same!
I would have constant digs at my OH for the rest of the day 😂
Choking frightens the life out of me, but thankfully she’s fine! You would have got a fright.

YABU to be in a mood with him but not to tell him why. Immature way of dealing with a serious issue.

She was holding it in her mouth, a split of a second or if he'd of moved with her on his lap she could've swallowed it. She doesn't usually put stuff in her mouth we've been very lucky up until this point. Because I've been very strict on her putting things in her mouth, with choking being one of my big fears.

I'm aware mistakes happen, but she wasn't being watched as she managed to go behind the TV on the unit and grab the bottle and take the lid off of the bottle. That's the whole time he's clearly not being watching her, and then made a shitty excuse " it's a clear lid "

He knows exactly why I'm being pissy hence why he keeps mentioning it was a clear lid. But I'm not about to get into a slanging match with him which it will be, as he'll just get defensive.. I'll talk to him about it when it's nap time

Is it something she could actually have choked on? I can't really picture it, but it sounds too large. He should have been paying more attention, but you're also overreacting.

Your child didn't almost choke.

Your H should have been keeping a closer eye on her, you are overdramatising.

@4amWitchingHour it's a small lid, it's not as wide as a fruit shoot cap put it that way. She had the whole lid in her mouth with just the flat side pointing out between her lips.

That’s not almost choking. If you’re angry with him about it (understandable), then maybe have a proper conversation instead of “going all pissy” (and being passive aggressive).

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She didn't almost choke.

@year5teacher

That’s not almost choking. If you’re angry with him about it (understandable), then maybe have a proper conversation instead of “going all pissy” (and being passive aggressive).

No I will be having a proper conversation as soon as nap time comes around. I don't like getting into conversations which could end up with him getting defensive and doing his usual walking out into the bedroom whilst our daughters around. I'll wait until she's asleep then I'll have a word.

I would be upset too op, but she is fine! Just have a word with him about watching her. Honestly though kids are so quick. I've had to every experiences with Dd. One time it was her 1st birthday I think and someone out sequins in her card and they went all over the floor. I picked and hoovered them up but one must of remained. She put it in her mouth and she started choking but thankfully we got it back up. It really shook me up. Then another time I had like a jewel type thing fell off my sandals and she picked that up too and went to put it in her mouth.

With DS he nearly choked on an actual sausage.

To add, next time you buy a hair detangler or similar discard of the plastic lid immediately. I tend to do this as Dd will pick them up to spray her dolls her. She's 6 so unlikely to put it in her mouth but you never know!

Yeah I definitely will do, she has a load of small figurines as toys but she never tries to put them in her mouth.