To think that we will always blame our parents?

[malificent7]

I blamed my mum and dad for years for things that went wrong. Now dd blames me for stuff. I get that parents do have an influence on our lives but now i'm older i have my own dd and realise that all parents make mistakes.
Obviously abuse is not ok...but i got fed up with blaming my non abusive dad for stuff and now feel liberated.

It's a very childlike response to always seek someone else to blame for our own poor choices or negative circumstances. I was really young when I started to see my mother as a flawed human being who didn't have the capacity to be what I wanted her to be but I didn't blame her for my choices. I think my whole upbringing and the culture I was part of impacted my decisions but the same can be said for my parents. Agree that in the case of abuse or neglect then adults need to be held responsible, but I just can't get on board with blame - it's so pointless.

Completely depends what the issue is. This is an enormous spectrum.

I don't blame my parents for anything. I generally had a good life, though they were not perfect and made mistakes. I expect my children to believe the same because I have always been open and honest with them and apologise when I'm in the wrong.

However, this subject can not be generalised. Some parents are to blame for somethings and conversely, some 'children' need to grow the fuck up.