What can I do?

[Kaboomba]

So I had my baby yesterday, an elective c section and we had told our very excited next door neighbour the date and discussed at length when I usually get out (third baby and third c section). I've come today to a message at 8pm that she's having a party, the music is blasting out her house, these people shouting and screaming in the garden, in the house, cigarette butts been thrown in our garden. My 5 and 2 year old can't sleep because of the noise, we are all trying to get to know our new day old baby, I'm exhausted from no sleep in the hospital last night and obviously major surgery.

I don't really no what I can do about it or anything? I'm so upset about it (obviously hormonal on top of this) she knew I was coming home today and has yet organised a big party knowing this. AIBU to be upset? Can I do anything?

wow! Lol ok....

You can’t do anything I mean mention the cigarette butts ask if she could turn the music down maybe. But that’s it really she’s in her home and tyeah that’s it really.

Also YABU because your expecting her to live her life around your life choices. Loud music is obnoxious I agree but it’s a Friday night and it’s not that late yet.

Who sent the message? If it was her, I’d have replied and reminded her you were coming home. That’s majorly inconsiderate.

Congratulations on the baby! YANBU - I would be very stressed and upset by this

That's very rude of your neighbour. She clearly has no respect, does she have children herself?

Oh and congratulations on your new baby.

I don’t think this party is about you at all. You’re taking it very personally (understandable) but take a breath and think clearly. Realistically did you expect your neighbour to remember when your c section was?

If there’s nuisance noise and covid refs. Ring broken you could call the police on the non emergency number. Can you send your partner round to ask them to turn it down? You might be best toughing it out though and then talking to her about the cigarette butts in the morning.

@Twocanplay

That's very rude of your neighbour. She clearly has no respect, does she have children herself?

Ffs.

This isn’t about whether she has kids. Most people without children aren’t inconsiderate areeholes. Most people with kids aren’t either. This doesn’t divide down who has procreated and who hasn’t lines.

When your baby is up during the night...open the windows. Let her 'enjoy' those times with you too

It's annoying for you and very inconvenient.

But it's a Friday night at the end of lockdown.

I think all you can do is ask if she could keep it down since it's after 11.