To feel a bit of a fraud? Autistic DD

[MySunshineMyOnlySunshine]

I have an autistic/adhd/learning difficulties 6 year old and I can't help but feel a bit of a fraud for how much help we get when there are so many worse off families not able to get it?

I feel permanently really guilty and that it is just me being lazy and that DD is absolutely fine and if I just did more then she would be just like every other child.

She has just been agreed a move to a special school and I keep hearing of children who struggle so much worse at school not be allowed it. We have a substantial respite package and again, there are children and families who need it so much more, we only got it because school nagged for a respite package and the LA relented.

I'm just finding it all a bit hard to accept that she needs any of it. AIBU to feel a bit of a fraud?

“Where do you live” reads like me demanding your address 😂 I meant the general area really, I’m NW England.

I feel the same I recieve high rate dla for mine and I've heard of kids with strokes not getting that amount. But if you see how hard it is actually being a parent to her then it explains itself.
I have family that believe it's my parenting, I've had people tell me to just force my daughter to do things I cannot.
For example she has really bad sensory issues and it takes us 35 minutes some days to get shoes on for school, people tell me to just hold her down and stick them on but this will only distress her and frighten her? It's bloody hard op. We still aren't getting the right amount of help yet. But school have been amazing.

Dont feel guilty ,clearly your daughter needs the support ,my son has severe autism and learning disabilities,he has always gone to a special school,we get very little in terms of respite ,but my lea has several special school,s and quite a lot of charities that help disabled children,it is what it is ,yes there should be more respite available for all families that need it ,but don't feel guilty for getting it.