AIBU?
To wonder what it's like to be in family of stunners?
Hunstanton · 07/05/2021 16:26
As a long term fan of Joe Wicks and his beautiful family it made me wonder what it would be like to be gorgeous/handsome and live with equally beautiful people.
I realise some will think this is a banal topic to wonder about. And it probably is.
But whilst the rest of us normal/ordinary looking people just get by without ever being burdened with too much attractiveness, I am wondering what it's like if that is YOU or your family?
Do people treat you differently?
Do you feel different?
Friday afternoon musings....
doadeer · 07/05/2021 17:22
LOL we get told this a lot. My DH is very handsome and my son is very gorgeous. Yes yes I know everyone thinks this about their loved ones. But my DH had the nickname *Beautiful [his name] at university. And every person who meets my son comments on how he looks.
I'll stop being obnoxious now. 🤣
theworldsbiggestcrocodile · 07/05/2021 17:27
It's ok as long as you aren't like me, the odd one out. Both my sister and brother are gorgeous, as were my parents back in the day and aged fairly well. I'm at best slightly better looking than average and it's was pretty annoying as a child getting the incredibly surprised 'oh are you such and such's sister' followed by 'you don't look much like them do you?'
OhWhyNot · 07/05/2021 17:43
Well as long as they are not competitive and jealous i imagine it’s fine
Both my parents are very good looking and so are their children (my dad had other children with a different women)
My mum started to undermine me when I became what she saw as competition and it’s absolutely impacted my confidence. My dad is envious of my brother (who is so popular and everyone’s friend) and is harsh on him but he loves to show his daughters off
A friend of mine her and her sisters are all very good looking and so is there mother. The jealousy between them is off the scale
But that doesn’t play out in all families
Too much emphasis is placed on looks it really isn’t healthy
CliftonGreenYork · 07/05/2021 17:58
I watched a documentary years ago about ' beautiful people' and how the get treated so much better by strangers. I remember one example where yhey set up a situation where they had a gorgeous man (and later a woman) ask to borrow money off strangers at a railways station. Everyone lent them them money and were very kind. They later had an 'unatractive' man and woman do the same and only 1 person gave them anything.
As someone who has lost a lot of weight I can also say I get treated so much nicer now that I am slim.
Ladyraven0483 · 07/05/2021 18:04
I don’t feel like I am that attractive don’t think I am terrible looking and been told I’m very pretty a good few times so that’s an ego boost lol.
I went for a job interview when I was 23, I’d hardly answered any questions and was told I could have the job, to also be told not to wear low cut tops or anything because the warehouse lads will be distracted from work. At the time I didn’t think any of it but now I think it’s quite bad for him to have said anything like that to me. I know now I only got that job because of how I looked. I’ve always felt the ugly one in my family though and my confidence was always knocked by my dad who would say I was the ugly child. The women in my family are very beautiful and I’m not being biased.
turkeyboots · 07/05/2021 18:08
My Dad has 6 younger sisters, most of whom are 6 foot tall and beautiful. As a teenager I felt totally outclassed, but loved going out as a gang. But competitive under eating was totally acceptable, which wasn't good.
But my friend and her sister got male attention in a way I never saw with my aunts. They were average height and average looking but never ever need to buy themselves a drink or carry a suitcase. Men tripped over themselves to help them out.
Neolara · 07/05/2021 18:10
My aunt and uncle were both spectacularly good looking in their youth. Really, model like good looks. Their 3 adult kids are certainly attractive but by no means stunning. I think the kids heard a lot of muttering over the years about how weird it is that they weren't as beautiful as their parents, not in a putting-them-down kind of way, more a isnt-it-surprising kind of way. That's got to have an impact at some level.
chipsandgin · 07/05/2021 18:12
I was with a very beautiful man for 7 years in my 20s & it was interesting to see how differently people reacted to him. This was to the extent that women would barge between he & I in a club & blatantly try it on with him & a male celebrity once tried to get him back to his hotel room in front of me - I always found it amusing when my lovely, gentle but stunning boyfriend was mouthing ‘help me’ (obviously if he’d actually needed help I’d have stepped in, he’d always politely decline the offers & was perfectly capable of looking after himself!).
I also have a good friend who was with a head turningly (if slightly psychotic) woman for a while & walking into a room with her was fascinating & very different to the reaction I was used to - it made me realise that whilst I’ve always had no problem in terms of meeting men & having relationships the attention & leering that comes with being model beautiful is a bit overwhelming (& she was so used to it she was largely oblivious), I’ve always been perfectly happy to be averagely attractive & get by on a mix of alright looks & personality - especially having seen the amount of unwelcome attention that “stunning” receives whether you are male or female IMO.
SmokedDuck · 07/05/2021 18:14
I had a roommate who was very beautiful, along with her whole family. Mum, dad, sisters, one brother who had teen acne but soon enough looked like the dad.
It was a bit weird to be in a room with the all. But for the most part I think they were unaware of the fact that they were so good looking.
CervixHaver · 07/05/2021 18:21
@CliftonGreenYork
As someone who has lost a lot of weight I can also say I get treated so much nicer now that I am slim.
As someone who has lost a lot of weight I can also say I get treated so much nicer now that I am slim.
Yes!! I'm the opposite, I used to be slim (size 6-8) and I'm now quite overweight (size 22-24) due to prescription medication over many years, and the DIFFERENCE in how people treat me is off the charts.....
Now people are either just rude/obnoxious or speak to me like I have some kind of special needs. It really hurts when you know what it's like to be slim and treated like everyone else
OverTheRubicon · 07/05/2021 18:24
I'm the least attractive from a family of stunners - I look totally fine, quite pretty when I'm dressed up with good mascara and a push up bra, but never turned heads walking into a pub like my mum used to or my siblings still did well into their 30s.
Honestly, it's really nice, everyone treats you just a bit better. If you were a white British family (we aren't) I imagine it's even more dramatic. My brother and his incredibly glamorous wife used to regularly show up at booked out places and tables would just appear, they honestly thought that was normal
People always say how these people must find it hard as they get older, but actually my SIL now just has an equally stunning daughter so they still look gorgeous as a group.
For me, it worked ok on balance... however I think it would be hard if you were born into a gorgeous family but for whatever reason didn't fit the mould of attractiveness. I incorrectly thought I was quite plain growing up because I was so invisible next to my sister, and bringing boys home was always a bit tense - luckily she was lovely, and it's always a good arsehole test to see if your new bf is leering at your family member. However it would be different if you were really unhappy with your looks, or if your siblings were unkind or parents disappointed.
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