To be completely exhausted?

[Pumpkin97]

Sorry this could turn into a bit of a rant...
Is anyone else just sick of the relentlessness of housework/being a mum etc?
I have a 6 month old baby girl, born the day after we went into 2nd lockdown in November. We also have 5 pets. I went back to work when she was 7 weeks due to being self employed and Dh’s job instability. I work about 15hrs a week. Every day I feel utterly exhausted from looking after baby, doing virtually all the housework single handed, working, looking after the pets. Feel like I never get a break. Just caught in a constant cycle of washing up, cooking meals, washing, ironing, other chores, walking dogs ... feeding baby, entertaining her,taking her out for walks, it’s never-ending. Does anyone else feel like this?

Yep, 2 kids, 2 cats and a dog, i work 27 something hours a week which is evenings into the early hours twice a week and one 10 hour night shift. Im awake all day, then work, snatch 4 hours sleep then start all over again. Im chasing my ass, im burnt out and im bored of feeling like this. I dont do anything during the week, by the time dd is awake, had her lunch, its an hour until the school run or i have to get sorted to leave for work straight after. I feel like ive lost 'me' and im just mum

My god you sound so busy! No wonder you’re exhausted!

@Calmyertits that sounds awful, how on earth do you cope?
@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing haha yes I guess, just wanted to see if it was normal

Why isn’t your other half pulling his weight?

I can remember feeling that way around 6 months - when the baby starts weaning and suddenly you have to fit in baby meals as well as milk feeds. It settles down after a while, and also baby becomes more fun.

But I would consider whether your DH is pulling his weight. Just because he is paid-working more hours than you (presumably) doesn’t mean you do all the home and pet chores.

Where is the baby's father in all of this?

Me! And I don’t even have kids. Work LONG hours for NHS and just feel so totally overwhelmed with it all. Started some anti burnout course that I saw advertised recently that is helping, but without cutting all of my hours down completely (or changing jobs which I’ve seriously considered) I don’t know what else I can do. I really feel for you with having to manage all of that.

As PP said, what about your OH? Mine does - barely - pull his weight but it still feels like there’s always so much ‘house management’ to do.

Oh my DS was born the day before yours by the sounds of it. I'm back in 4 weeks and already dreading it as I'm already exhausted never mind when I'm back to 24hrs p/w too.
My DH pulls his weight mostly as well it's just all the unseen stuff, school emails , organising appointments, deciding what need to be done cleaned etc and we have have an allotments to keep in top of.
Only advise is to say I find it gets easier as kids get older (DS is child 3) and to be very clear what you expect of DH (he has for better with time) .

Dh is wfh in. 9-5 job.. he does feed the dogs in morning and will have baby when I shower and helps feed her at teatime if I’m working but in terms of housework he does very little, essentially none in week and sometimes none at weekends either

Your husband needs to help! Make him

@forestsmurf we also have an allotment! And yes I know how you feel re emails, appointments etc I deal with all of that too! Hope your return to work goes well

Why does you DH get to not do stuff?

Unless you are going to provide a massive drip feed where he has no arms or legs, he is a lazy fucker and needs to do his fair share.

My kids are 3 and 7 and I still feel like this. More than ever.

You should be having equal leisure time.

If DH is escaping to the allotment instead of helping at home perhaps you need to pause the allotment or give it up.