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To think adults ageing themselves up is odd

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Beatinghearts · 07/05/2021 11:14

I have a friend who’s 24 but as she’s 25 in July. She’s now saying she’s 25. Aibu to think it’s odd to age yourself up two months before your birthday. I understand it when children do it but can’t understand why an adult would want to.

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Titterofwit · 07/05/2021 11:22

Michael Palin was quoted in a newspaper recently as saying that he was currently 77 but was going to skip being 78 &79 and go straight to 80. He was looking forward to people saying he looked very good for his age.
Maybe your friend is insecure about her looks?


00100001 · 07/05/2021 11:23

nowt as queer as folk.


flashylamp · 07/05/2021 11:23

I have 20 year on her and I'm definitely not ageing up Grin

I wonder why people would do this? It's a really basic question/answer


Beatinghearts · 07/05/2021 11:28

If anything people think she’s younger than she is anyway.

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pedalbin · 07/05/2021 11:30

My granny does this. She'll be 96 in august but has been claiming to be 96 since Christmas (she is of sound mind). I think she does it because being really really old is exceptional and special. No idea why your pal does it.


Northernsoullover · 07/05/2021 11:31

I do this. It is completely unintentional. I do not age myself up. I realised when I started saying I was 36 just before my birthday. My birthday came and I thought I was 37 momentarily ConfusedGrin


CounsellorTroi · 07/05/2021 11:33

I’m 60 in a month’s time. SoI’m really more 60 than 59!


VettiyaIruken · 07/05/2021 11:35

I'm 47 and describe myself as "hurtling towards 50"


ShirleyPhallus · 07/05/2021 11:38

Oh god people on here do this ALL THE TIME

Post a photo of themselves and say “I’m nearly 48!” Or “I’ll be 53 in July!”

It makes almost zero difference, you’re not more impressively youthful looking just for those extra few months being shaved off


Fizbosshoes · 07/05/2021 11:38

I was musing the other day that children (say under 10) often like to feel older, saying I'm 6 and 3/4 for example. Then teens might pretend to be older to go to certain films, into clubs, pubs etc.

But after that the majority of adults are either quite coy about their age, or would only mention it and say it as it is, when questioned.(although some celebs seem to be a bit creative with age!)

...until you get to say 80, when people seem to be quite proud of it. "I'll be 85 this year you know!" When I speak to an elderly relative and ask how he is, he often says "not bad for 90"


Anonmousse · 07/05/2021 11:39

My DH is always trying to add a year to my age. I think it's because hes a lot older and he somehow wants me to catch up!😂


Wegobshite · 07/05/2021 11:40

Lol 😂 my DH did this when he was 48 was telling people he was 50
Got lots of people saying “you don’t look 50 “ 😂
Sadly when he reached 50 and told people his age no said the same 😂
He said he was preparing himself for being 50 - bloody idiot


LoudNowSing · 07/05/2021 11:41

I've gotten confused about how old I am, and can never remember if I'm 46 or 47. HmmConfused


user1471554720 · 07/05/2021 11:43

Sometimes people feel they get a bit more respect as they age. Less can be expected of them. Eg if you always finf IT hard, you may say, I am 59 and find it hard. If you say you are 57, they may expect you to just get on with it.

With the people of 80, others can say, they are very active and alert for 80. 78 doesn't have the same ring.

A work colleague was 30 but was fit to tell people she was 32. She had a round, young face and people always thought she looked in her early to mid 20s. She was treated a bit more junior and was not treated like a 30 year old.

My life is a liot more busy than others my age as I work nearly fulltime and a lot of them do 3 days a week. I get very tired and don't have energy for socialising. Even though I am 48, 49 in 3 months, I am fit to tell people I am nearly 50 and work fulltime with 2 tweens, especially if they badger ne to go on a night out.


KFleming · 07/05/2021 11:45

Isn’t she just rounding? Bit odd I guess but doesn’t have to have a deeper motive.


LoudNowSing · 07/05/2021 11:46

There's actually a calculator online that tells you how old you are. Grin I'm a young one if only 46. [preens] Wink


JeremyIronsBenFolds · 07/05/2021 11:49

I had a work colleague who did this - she was the same age as me, but actively encouraged people to believe she was several years older, ie claiming to remember events that she would have been too young for, no reference to her age on her birthday, etc. I had suspected for a while but I only confirmed her true age when I heard her calling her bank. She used to patronise the hell out of me so it was really galling, but she turned out to be a fantasist in other areas as well - like her actual work experience! She got fired in the end - total loon Grin


Choccyp1g · 07/05/2021 11:54

There is a name for people who proudly tell you how old they are, usually rounding up:
"old age mentioners"


BigusBumus · 07/05/2021 11:55

@Wegobshite Are you married to my DH. He said/did exactly the same.

Most peculiar.

He's now 52 and I'm 49 and he's been telling people I'm 50 for the last 18 months. WTF???


NeedNewKnees · 07/05/2021 11:57

It’s just rounding. Once the year changes I tend round up, despite my birthday not being for a few weeks. Although sometimes when my birthday rolls around I accidentally age up again 🙄


cheeseismydownfall · 07/05/2021 12:06

I agree it is really odd.

If my birthday was literally just a few days away, I might age up I guess, depending on context. But to do it weeks or months in advance is just weird.


BestZebbie · 07/05/2021 12:08

I agree, it is rounding/simplification. I'm 39 but I would happily refer to myself as 40 because it is a round number that is easy to understand, whereas 39 seems more...picky and precise.
It is exactly the same as when someone who lives in a village gets asked where the come from on holiday and says "near ".


SwedishK · 07/05/2021 12:08

Yes, it's weird. I had an acquaintance who told everyone she was 43. She had a 15 year old DD and it all made sense. She got tons of compliments, that she looked so incredible for her age, etc. Turned out, she was actually just 30, and had her DD at 15. She still looks incredibly good, and she's a yoga teacher so really fit, but it wasn't that remarkable for a 30 year old. However, the lying made her less attractive.


justlonelystars · 07/05/2021 12:27

I often forget how old I am. I’m 28 (I think Grin) but often tell people I’m 27 or 29 because I can’t remember. A couple of years ago when I was 26 I told someone I was 20 🤷🏼‍♀️


Beatinghearts · 07/05/2021 15:30

I just don’t see the need for it it’s very strange.

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