AIBU to be grumpy with DH over holiday

[LadyHedgehog]

This is a real first world problem, so please read it in that context!

We are planning a holiday as a celebration. Now looking at Summer 2022 due to Covid.

There was something I really wanted to do but DH said he wanted to think about it and check it was good value for money. Yesterday we looked again, he said that actually, yes, he did want to do it. We chose dates and he booked time off work.

Then as I was about to book, he said actually he wasn't sure. He isn't convinced it is good value for money and we should go somewhere else for longer for the same money - note that this was 'somewhere else' abstract, not an actual place. Just a 'nice hotel' and 'activities'.

I was really really disappointed. I tried very hard not to show it, but did not succeed.

Later he said 'okay, we'll do it', but I feel like it's only because I got upset. I am no longer excited to book because I am worried I will feel so much pressure for it to be 'good value for money' and do not want DH to resent spending money on it if it isn't excellent. Am I cutting off my nose to spite my face.

Voting:
YABU - he said yes, just book it
YANBU - find somewhere else

@3Britnee

I'd go without him. He sounds fucking miserable.

I did consider it! Might still be an option if he insists on being a misery guts.

(Not really. He is lovely, he just has a really weird thing about paying for holidays. He'll love it once he's there.)

That sounds amazing. Ditch your miserable husband and take me!

“Don’t try and bring him round. That sounds epically tedious, why would you?

You agreed on it, it’s booked, that’s all you need to do.”

Exactly this.

Also... it’s a 4 day trip in France. It sounds like a fantastic experience but it’s not like you’re flying to the Maldives via private jet for 3 months.

Sounds fantastic! I'm jealous.

Value for money should be based on how much you will enjoy it, not how long you go for etc

Yeah, you probably could go somewhere else for a week for the same money, but you'd be bored by day 5 because there's nothing to do but lounge by the pool!

Oh, I'll take his place OP! That sounds like a great holiday!

To be fair to him i think its just that holidays are relatively so much money, compared to other purchases. That there can be a fear in getting it wrong.

But hurrah a holiday

Ha, this is the opposite of my DP. He takes no interest and I just book it from our joint account. Then when the time comes he gets in the car and says 'so where are we going?' Drives me mad.

Sounds flippin lovely.

Nooooooo ditch DH and take me!!!!!!!

That sounds such a lovely thing to do

Before we married DH told me he didn't like sun holidays. All that lying on beaches soaking up the sun when you could be doing more interesting things instead. Went to a lovely holiday island where it's very sunny for our honeymoon. Guess what he loved it and couldn't prise him off the beach so since we have had a mixture of sun and city holidays.

I wouldn't have any trouble persuading my DH to go on that holiday. It sounds wonderful. I'm sure you'll both love it.

In fact, I just asked my DP if he'd done any research for our upcoming holiday to Northumberland, and he just said 'no, that's what the car journey is for'. And when we went to morocco on our last abroad holiday he bought a guide book in the airport and read it on the plane, after asking me where we were going again. At least he's consistent.