Still has exes number?

[breakingupslowly]

Would you be annoyed if your boyfriend had his exes number in his phone still? She contacted him and he showed me (fair enough). But she was still saved in his phone even though he told me that he’d blocked and deleted months ago . He says he forgot to check but I’m suspicious.

Aibu?

No. Husband has his ex wife's and a few girlfriends numbers. If they contact him then it's always for practical reasons or employment help. Couldn't care less.

Lying isn't ok but it depends on why he lied. Are you a bit intense so he feels the need or are you intense because he has a history of lying.

*ex girlfriends

I have my ex’s number so l don’t answer if the idiot ever rings or texts me. It’s safe to say we didn’t part on good terms

Why does he need to block her exactly?

I have everyone’s number from the past 10 years 😂 I don’t delete them.

Having his exes number wouldn't be an issue, but lying and saying he blocked and deleted it when he hadn't would bother me far more. Why would he have needed to block and delete her anyway? Unless there is a back story.

@gamerchick I suppose I’m intense due to his history of lying unfortunately.

He ended things with me just before Christmas and went back to her. Then he came back to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

Drip feed right there. Apologies

I suppose I’m intense due to his history of lying unfortunately.

Then why are you still even with him? Honestly? You know he's a liar yet here you are, still hanging around to be lied to once again. Raise your standards, ffs.

Healthy relationships don’t have this level of mistrust and worry. Are you happy with this?

I've got about 10 exes numbers in my phone going back probably to my first iPhone. Never occurred to me to delete them.

Ah, so he's a liar/cheat. That's the problem.

Get rid.

Normally having an exes number would be ok but lying about it wouldn’t be

I’m this case it sounds like he’s stringing you both along. Why are you with someone who has a history of lying to you and who clearly still thinks lying to you is acceptable?

I really don’t know 😩. I’m a fool.

You’re not a fool.

Just think through what you want from a relationship and a partner; maybe even write it down (I found this useful after so many idiotic boyfriends).

Don’t settle for someone who lies or treats you badly.

Think of a partner as you would a best friend- is he acting like a good friend?

This is all you expect out of a boyfriend? Do you really believe he's as good as it gets? He's not. He's shit.

@breakingupslowly

He ended things with me just before Christmas and went back to her. Then he came back to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

Drip feed right there. Apologies

You are worth much more than him. You will be happier without him. Repeat several times a day.

Get rid of him - you don’t trust him.

You've written about him and his family before haven't you? It sounds like such a draining relationship, you deserve more, don't waste your life on this lying cheat.