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To think everyone moans about work at some point?

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PlasticSmileyCat · 05/05/2021 21:25

Or am I just being horrible?

Have a job I really love (love the people too).. But the 5% of it don't love is really, REALLY getting to me at present, and I find myself having a moan about it. A lot. This makes me feel like I am being a v. unreasonable and rather horrible person..ungrateful too. Am I? Or do we all have a moan about work at some point?

Am I being unreasonable to think we all moan about work? = yabu

Am I not being unreasonable to think we all moan about work? = yanbu

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PumpkinPie2016 · 05/05/2021 21:37

YANBU everyone has aspects of their job they don't especially like and we all have a moan occasionally.

I love my job but still have an occasional moan at stressful times. It's normal.

The only time it's a problem is if you constantly feel that way/hate most of the job. It's probably time for a change then.


toffeebutterpopcorn · 05/05/2021 21:40

Actually dad never moaned about his work - his clients sometimes but not the work (as he enjoyed it and said that he got a lot of satisfaction out of it).


PlasticSmileyCat · 05/05/2021 21:44

Thanks. No it's not an all the time thing, I'm just going through a phase I think. Not proud of that though.

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Honeyroar · 05/05/2021 21:45

I feel like I do nothing but moan lately.


KizzyMoo · 05/05/2021 22:21

Oh I moan most days! Thank god for wine. Moaned all the way through lockdown as I wanted to WFH or be furloughed and decorate my house and garden😆 I'd have probably gone mad though.


RachelGreep87 · 05/05/2021 22:41

YANBU, its good to vent sometimes


OhWhyNot · 05/05/2021 22:45


I love my job

But I love a good moan too makes me feel better Grin

I know when I need a break I can’t stop moaning


HenryHooverIII · 05/05/2021 22:47

I love my job. Not my colleagues. So glad I WFH Grin


threeteenstaximum · 05/05/2021 23:16

Meh you can moan

I love my job but hated it for more than 50% of past year, not because the job people aren't fab but because I'm working silly unpaid extra hours as Covid pressures are killing us and we are under relentless pressure .

I dream about running away to a nice quiet village doing a bit of pottery - and my colleagues and I are "not waving but drowning"

You moan away, if it helps you. The funniest dry senses of humour has kept group of us going as others are falling by off on sick leave around us ...


Chickencrossing · 05/05/2021 23:46

I moan about work everyday, just exhausted. I cant wait to leave, I'm starting to interview but so far none of the new positions are filling me with much joy either. It feels like employers these days want your soul and more.


ViciousJackdaw · 05/05/2021 23:54

If work was that great, they wouldn't have to pay you to do it! YANBU.


BackforGood · 06/05/2021 00:14

Of course people do.
Perfectly normal.
As jobs go, I love my job, BUT there's also a lot wrong with it.
If you only moan about 5% of it, I think you've got it good.


ShirleyPhallus · 06/05/2021 00:18

Yes definitely. I think everyone moans about their bosses sometimes which is difficult to acknowledge/ think about when you’re someone’s boss!


Sunshin388 · 06/05/2021 00:22

You only hate 5% of your work??? Jeez I need to change jobs....


Chimboo · 06/05/2021 00:23

Same, doing nothing but moaning. I blame lockdown and the fact that I’m sick of screens and incessant emails. Was never this bad before and although I have a bit more responsibility now my actual job hasn’t changed that much in the last year really, not to the point where I should be moaning as much as I am...


MinnieMountain · 06/05/2021 06:57

I always have a bit of a moan- better out than in. I had a particularly moany day yesterday, much to DH’s amusement.


ZaraW · 06/05/2021 07:21

YABU if you complain a lot. I had an ex who would always complain about work. I gave him a 5 minute window and after that change the subject. It's really boring to listen to.


TroysMammy · 06/05/2021 07:26

I love my job but there is so much wrong with it. I woke up at 3am going through problems in my mind. I didn't get back to sleep . I'm in work until 6.30pm. It's going to be a long day.


Katkincake · 06/05/2021 07:43

I love my job and who I work for, but by god I’m sick of the monotony of work at the moment. I miss being with people & sick of video meetings. Yesterday I was sad about the fact that I hadn’t worn smart clothes for a year (even though it was a pain in the arse choosing a different outfit each day). I moan to DH about how slow my organisation is to return to the workplace and how future plans for office use and travel will be very different to before and his answer is “maybe you need to look for another job”, but I don’t want to so I know I need to stop moaning to him about it. He’s also fed up of working at home.

I know things will eventually return to some sort of normality, but boy it’s a slog in the meantime. I also need to be grateful that I have a stable job in current climate.


DinosaurDiana · 06/05/2021 07:46

I moan constantly because I know the job could be done better.
When we had no manager, and we decided how we did things, we got better results.
But I would not want to be a manager, sat at a desk telling others what to do and sending emails all day, I’d rather be doing it.


nancywhitehead · 06/05/2021 07:52

Why does having a moan make you feel like you are being unreasonable and horrible?


Dozer · 06/05/2021 07:53

YABU to ‘feel like I am being a v. unreasonable and rather horrible person..ungrateful too’! Understandable not to enjoy every aspect of your job, and get fed up at times, and that doesn’t say anything bad about you as a person.

Much depends on how often/for how long you’re moaning, and to whom.

I’ve had a lot of struggles with work and over the years talked negatively about it to DH, and occasionally family/friends, about it more than was fair to them! A couple of times when things got really bad I sought counselling, which was a big help.


Arbadacarba · 06/05/2021 07:54

I wouldn't swear that absolutely everyone does, but most of us do. Even if you like your job there will always be minor irritations.


bunglebee · 06/05/2021 07:54

Yes everybody has a moan from time to time.

If you really feel like it's all you do lately, though, you might have got stuck in a bit of a negative mental rut and that can very easily turn into a negativity spiral. Might be time to either actually do something about whatever you're moaning about or let it go.


PlasticSmileyCat · 06/05/2021 07:56

I totally do think that I need to get a grip and be grateful for what I have.

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